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Let me preface this by saying I feel gaslit. This is cheating right?
Anyway, Imagine the most attentive and loving and understanding person on the planet, and that its them....my spidey senses were tingling though....so I checked her phone. They have a community on discord she talks to and have accumulated multiple sexual online relationships over the course of 3 to 4 years. This september will be our 5th year of being girlfiends. I talked to one of their online friends when I went on video chat with my partner, not knowing that 24 hours prior they had sexted. The talk was awkward asf. Like the girl didn't want to talk to me. When my girlfriend texted her that she would see if she could get me on another video chat with them, the girl reacted with a 😳 emoji.....It was like talking to a brick wall. I let my partner know that I was uncomfortable with that girl. They video chatted and sexted again a month later. Around 8 months later, the girl got a girlfriend, my partner and her cooled it, and then when she broke up with her girlfriend, my partner and her started fooling around again. My partner had the audacity to say she didn't cheat. Hell, someone else was talking about taking her on a date! She replied "you just want my p\*ssy" and the other person said "nah, just the date." My partner replied: "that's sweet 🙂." THAT SWEET. NOT OH WELL IM ALREADY TAKEN BY A BEAUTIFUL GIRL OR NOT YOU'LL HAVE TO TAKE THAT UP WITH MY GIRLFRIEND...Just, "thats sweet."
Anyway, i ask them if things get spicy on discord. She said " occasionally but if they do, i block em or let em know that youd want to be involved." She said she didn't send pics and spicy texts. When i told her i knew about everything, i confronted her about telling everyone that i was in on it. Thats right. She told each person that i knew what she was doing. Heres the kicker. I told her "you were telling these people i knew what you were doing. But i didnt know." A minute later she said " i thought you knew i was sending pics and spicy texts." That doesn't make f\*cking sense. Why would you lie about not sending pics and spicy texts when I questioned you (which was me giving her a chance to see if she tells the truth), yet thinking I already knew. Make it make sense.
The first time I confronted them, their whole resolve was that they forgot what they did.........that was their reasoning for telling me they didn't send pics and spicy texts. But when i talked and confronted them by telling them i know everything, they just forgot they did it.. They did this for 4 years........I dont believe that for a second. They remember EVERYTHING that I don't in general day to day life. Very good memory. Im def confronting them again but like...what the hell would y'all do? She even said "maybe you were high one day when I told you about spicy stuff i send." Like gaslighting me ...but how does that work when you lie to me before i even tell you i know everything?! If you knew that i knew what was going on, why would you say you didnt send spicy texts...just tell me "i thought you knew i was doing this"...Then she went on to say "i'll just be the bad guy"........This person has made me feel more loved in the past than I have my entire life. I'm so blindsided. They said they didn't cheat but this is cheatingggg. Wtf.