u/KristinKitty

I am considering quitting. I'm an independent stylist renting a suite and I'm in pain every day. I have tendinitis and it's causing a lot of issues with my arm and back. I have an orthopedic appointment next week. I know I need to take time off to heal but feel guilty that I am letting people down. I am depressed because of it. I am limited on how many clients I can take and don't want to try anymore because of the pain. IDK what to do. any advice? anyone have anything like this happen to them? idk what other career I would do.

Hi everyone,

I’m stuck between two choices and could really use some outside perspective.

I’m planning to do an embryo transfer to try to get pregnant, and I have the option to move forward in mid to late May or wait until after a big trip I already have planned. We’re going to Alaska June 16 to 26 with flights, a cruise, and excursions, and it’s something I’ve been really looking forward to for a long time.

If I go ahead in May, I would likely be very early in pregnancy during the trip, around 5 to 6 weeks. I’ve heard that some people feel totally fine that early, but others feel exhausted or nauseous, so I don’t really know what to expect.

Part of me feels really impatient and just wants to move forward and not delay starting a family. I’ll be 41 soon, so even though waiting would only be about two months, it still feels hard to push it off.

At the same time, I’m worried about not feeling well on the trip or not being able to fully enjoy it if I’m in that early stage.

If you were in my position, would you go ahead with the embryo transfer now or wait until after the trip? Would you prioritize moving forward sooner or enjoying the trip without that uncertainty?

I’d really appreciate any thoughts or perspectives.

I have 3 euploid embryos and I’m really struggling with which one to transfer first.

We have 2 girls and 1 boy. The boy and one of the girls are considered excellent quality, and the other girl is good quality.

I know nothing is guaranteed, but my doctor gave us these rough odds:

• ~95% chance at least one will work
• ~65% chance two will work
• ~23% chance all three will work

So realistically, we’re hoping for 2 children from these 3 embryos, but of course I know anything can happen.

My husband really wants a boy. I definitely want a girl, but I would truly be happy either way.I keep going back and forth because:

• Part of me wants to save the only boy embryo for later since it feels higher stakes
• But part of me wonders if we should try for the boy first since that’s what my husband really wants

For those of you who had the option to choose, how did you decide which embryo to transfer first?

Did you go with gender preference, quality, or sibling dynamics?

Would love to hear how others approached this ❤️