u/KneadAndPreserve

Just posting into the void because I’m kind of down. My husband’s med school graduation is tomorrow. My first Mother’s Day with a baby earthside is Sunday (I’m also pregnant again). But all festivities this weekend are going to his graduation and I’m not being acknowledged. I get that he’s worked so hard for this but it does really suck that my very first Mother’s Day is not going to be about me at all. And it makes me sad he can’t even do something small to make me feel special on it. But I just have to deal because otherwise I’m taking it away from him…

Hey! So here’s my situation. I wanted to breastfeed my first baby who is 7 months old now. I was unable to because he wouldn’t latch. I pumped for a while but after a few weeks moved to exclusively formula feeding. I like formula feeding just fine, and my baby does great with it, but I did have a lot of grief I didn’t get to experience that specific part of motherhood I wanted. I got pregnant again by accident 3.5 months pp and my second baby is due right around my son’s first birthday.

I’m in my second trimester now and definitely want to try again to breastfeed this baby! Given my experience I’m prepared for all scenarios but I want to at least try. I know it will be hard with a newborn and a 1 year old, but so will a lot of things. However a lot of people around me who mean well are kind of discouraging. They say I’m going to be too busy and it will be harder and take away from my first baby and I should just consider EFFing from day one. Which I’m fine with if it doesn’t work out again for unforeseen reasons but I still desire that breastfeeding experience if I can have it.

Does anyone have any practical advice of how this will look with one baby who is moving away from formula at the same time and trying to learn to breastfeed with a newborn? I’m a SAHM with a super supportive but busy husband. Does anyone have any advice? Or encouragement? Thank you guys.