For years I have struggled with knowing what going slow looks like for me and have had trouble setting boundaries. This may be due to my people pleasing tendencies and my anxious attachment style.
Also i struggle because i don’t want to put the other person off me and make them wait ages for me to develop attraction.
How do you go slow and communicate it?
When I move to fast in dating ie. cuddle or have sex too early/too fast. (I.e: on the first few dates). I often lose my attraction to the person I’m getting to know. It just disappears out of thin air.
I’ve looked everywhere for why this happens to me, but I haven’t found any answers.
Like is there a way for me to regain my feelings or is that just it?
Anyway, I hope someone even one person resonates with what I experience. It is highly frustrating it makes me feel like I’ll never find anyone to date.
Thanks for reading and please leave a comment if you think you know why this is happening to me or if you experience this weird phenomenon too.