u/Key_Scientist6614

(25f) I have been in the dating scene for a while (single ~2 years post college bf) and recently reconnected with my college bestfriend (25m) we have been friends for like 5 years? In college he dated my roommate and I dated his. Time has gone by and we’ve seen each other maybe once or twice a year. His friends have even stayed at my apt to visit the city and go out on the town. We were very very close in college and know each other very well. He reached out because he moved back home (30 mins away from me) and we grabbed a beer a couple of weeks ago. It was nice catching up and he mentioned wanting to hang in the city more because being at home is lonely & boring (I live in the city).

Anyways I went on vacation then came back and let him know I was up for some drinks or something. He drove down picked me up & we went out. This time he was buying all my drinks and it seemed a little flirtatious, talking about our past relationships what we want in a partner etc. He also mentioned the next person he dates he wants to marry (I feel the same way) So I asked him if he’s ever thought about us being together. (I am extremely blunt) He said yes and asked if we should try it out/ go on a proper date. I said why not I am very comfortable with you and we have stuck by each others side through a lot of life situations. Plus it’s very comfortable with him, I feel good and able to be myself. -side note we talked about insecurities and mine is that I am too much for people and his is he feels like he’s not enough. Polar opposites in that area. He’s quiet and i am LOUD.

He also said he paid for an instagram psychic (lmao) and they said the next person he dates will have my initials. (thought that was hilarious)

He ended up staying over and it was honestly so nice, we didn’t have sex though just kissed and cuddled and hung out (proud of myself lol). we grabbed coffee in the morning and he headed home.

Anyways Easter was that Sunday and he invited me to church w him, I didn’t have plans so I said yes. He then invited me to lunch with his family after. I went and basically met his entire family, mom dad grandma gpa nieces nephews. It all felt really intimate. He was very kind, made my food plates, always made sure I had a drink if I needed it, joined in convos etc. We also went to his childhood friends house and helped w the Easter egg hunt, played cornhole it was all wholesome and sweet. His family was really sweet too. Fast forward to the end of the day, he walked me to my car gave me a side hug and said see you soon.

It completely threw me off. I feel like after such a good day w his family he should have kissed me? (we did kiss on friday so it wouldn’t have been the first one)

We have been barely texting (I don’t think he likes texting) but tried to make plans for this weekend and we’re both booked. Made tentative plans for next saturday to hang but haven’t really talked other than that. Maybe once or twice a day.

He did let me know he had a great time on Easter and he wants to see me again but I just feel like two weeks in between is a long time due to us living relatively close. Am I overthinking or is it possible he could make a little more effort to see me before then. I don’t know the line is weird because of how platonic we’ve always been so I guess I just wanted to see an outside perspective on all of this. I do see a future w him and we both work full time in office then workout after so our schedules are a bit difficult.

I’m trying to be chill but I am used to men pushing to see me more often than he is so it’s making me wonder. Also communicating more. Anyways thanks for reading this whole thing.