Disclaimer: To be clear, it's not always like this, just really comes out when shit hits the fan.
Somehow I'm responsible for mediating and navigating every fuckup/emergency in this family ever (classic eldest/daughter), but I'm not allowed to have my own fucking opinions on what led to these fuckups or have boundaries at nearly 40 years old? Yeah, fuck that. Also, I hate being from such a conflict-avoidant family. No one ever knows how to be straightforward, how to address and resolve issues, or how to manage their own big feelings. I'm starting to resent it.