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Hi all,

I met a Muslim conservative girl in a small town we had a great time doing so many activities and traveled to several cities together in these 3 months

After this time she suddenly has to go to her country and now she is with her parents

Before leaving she said I won't be active my parents will be watching over me please don't forget me

Since then the first 2 weeks she was texting everyday and she was asking questions back

But it has been a week and suddenly all changed she left me on read for 3 days and then I asked if all is good on her side she said Yess all is good

Now I don't know what is happening should I perceive her or let her comeback, now it has been again the 3d day she didn't reach.

Her behavior in these 3 months I saw she is very overwhelmed, stressed person easily getting stressed on a small issue, very shy person

Should I ask her about the situation if yes what kind of message should I send?

I suspect that either she stressed about something or her family started to doubt or monitor her very closely

Thanks for your help

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Hi all,

I met a Muslim conservative girl in a small town we had a great time doing so many activities and traveled to several cities together in these 3 months

After this time she suddenly has to go to her country and now she is with her parents

Before leaving she said I won't be active please don't forget me

Since then the first 2 weeks she was texting everyday and she was asking questions back

But it has been a week and suddenly all changed she left me on read for 3 days and then I asked if all is good on her side she said Yess all is good

Now I don't know what is happening should I perceive her or let her comeback, now it has been again the 3d day she didn't reach.

Her behavior in these 3 months I saw she is very overwhelmed, stressed person easily getting stressed on a small issue, very shy person

Should I ask her about the situation if yes what kind of message should I send?

I suspect that either she stressed about something or her family started to doubt or monitor her very closely

Thanks for your help

Hi, I met a girl in a small town, in 3 months we built a good connection and traveled to several cities.

Suddenly she has to go to her home country

Before leaving she said to me she won't be active as her parents will be watching her.

Her family is modern

First 2 weeks she was texting once a day keeping update sending selfie but recently she completely stopped everything leaving me on read for 3 days and I had to ask if she okay she say all is good

And now she is not even checking her message

What I'm dealing with I need advice

I can't directly ask her since she gets overwhelmed, getting stressed very quickly and when she in this moment she will push away anything

Thanks for advice

A girl is studying in Europe, she has a boyfriend and she returns to her home country can their family be extreme with her even if they are modern?

Hi,

I (30M) met a woman (22F) both Muslim conservative and we built a strong connection over about 3 months. We spent time together regularly, and in person she was warm, shy, and engaged. When I pulled back slightly, she would notice and check if something was wrong.

She later had to return to her home country due to family and financial reasons. Before leaving, she told me she wouldn’t be very active in texting and said not to judge her based on texting.

Also before leaving she said don't forget me I will comeback in 5 months

In the first week after she left, she was still communicating twice a day. But over time, this reduced a lot.

Now she usually replies once a day or less, mostly just answering questions without much engagement. Sometimes she sends a selfie when things go quiet.

One thing I’ve noticed is that when she is stressed, she tends to withdraw and communicate less.

This also happened when we were in the same city, and currently she is dealing with something that seems to be stressing her.

This makes it hard for me to understand whether the distance is just her way of handling stress and circumstances, or if her interest has decreased.

My questions:

How would you interpret this kind of behavior in a long-distance situation?

How can someone tell the difference between emotional withdrawal due to stress and actual loss of interest?

What is a healthy way to respond to this without over-investing?

TL;DR:

[30M] had a strong in-person connection with [22F]. After she left, communication went from twice a day to once a day or less. She tends to withdraw when stressed, making it unclear whether this is due to her situation or reduced interest.