u/Key-Entertainer7392

I just don’t know how to process this and no one responds to these things anyways (I know I sound like I’m whining but I’m a little emotional so just bare with me I guess)

I’ve been assaulted many times before but when I moved away from my family and started dating someone for the first time and fell completely in love, I thought I put it all behind me. So when my partner assaulted me it just kind of broke my brain. Not even what he did, but the fact that it happened AGAIN after I had already mentally closed that chapter and also completely placed my trust in him. It’s the fact that I was completely blindsided that I find intolerable. That I wasn’t prepared, that I lost control. I cannot separate what he did from myself and I’ve been immersed in this intense dissociative fog for the last year and a half. I have severe symptoms, I feel like it’s daytime when it’s nighttime, nothing feels real, etc. I think I feel an incredible amount of shame and self blame and I need to let my body process that so I can relax. When I cry and get insanely emotional I feel better after for about 20 minutes, even *almost* normal (one time), then the fog sets in again. And I do exposure therapy and my symptoms have definitely improved, (I have agoraphobia. When I leave the immediate area the derealization/depersonalization gets wayyyyyyyy worse and it’s terrifying). I’m just crashing out a little bit this morning because I don’t think my current therapist knows how to help me (she’s not a trauma therapist) and I have an appointment with a new one (yay) but I’m just frustrated and feel like I’ve wasted so much time despairing about being incurable. I haven’t felt normal or present for so long. I’ve missed out on developing friendships and even a new relationship because I’m so emotionally withdrawn and when I try to connect with people my head gets foggy and I have to go home even though part of me is still screaming for connection.

I guess I want to know if other people feel this way because it’s truly such an isolating feeling. And also if anyone who has been groomed their whole life and had the agency beaten out of them knows how to practice creating room for their emotions without attacking yourself like it’s YOUR fault you can’t feel your emotions I guess that would be helpful too. Not fixed, just advice.

I just don’t know how to process this and no one responds to these things anyways (I know I sound like I’m whining but I’m a little emotional so just bare with me I guess)

I’ve been assaulted many times before but when I moved away from my family and started dating someone for the first time and fell completely in love, I thought I put it all behind me. So when my partner assaulted me it just kind of broke my brain. Not even what he did, but the fact that it happened AGAIN after I had already mentally closed that chapter and also completely placed my trust in him. It’s the fact that I was completely blindsided that I find intolerable. That I wasn’t prepared, that I lost control. I cannot separate what he did from myself and I’ve been immersed in this intense dissociative fog for the last year and a half. I have severe symptoms, I feel like it’s daytime when it’s nighttime, nothing feels real, etc. I think I feel an incredible amount of shame and self blame and I need to let my body process that so I can relax. When I cry and get insanely emotional I feel better after for about 20 minutes, even *almost* normal (one time), then the fog sets in again. And I do exposure therapy and my symptoms have definitely improved, (I have agoraphobia. When I leave the immediate area the derealization gets wayyyyyyyy worse and it’s terrifying). I’m just crashing out a little bit this morning because I don’t think my current therapist knows how to help me (she’s not a trauma therapist) and I have an appointment with a new one (yay) but I’m just frustrated and feel like I’ve wasted so much time despairing about being incurable. I haven’t felt normal or present for so long. I’ve missed out on developing friendships and even a new relationship because I’m so emotionally withdrawn and when I try to connect with people my head gets foggy and I have to go home even though part of me is still screaming for connection.

I guess I want to know if other people feel this way because it’s truly such an isolating feeling. And also if anyone who has been groomed their whole life and had the agency beaten out of them knows how to practice creating room for their emotions without attacking yourself like it’s YOUR fault you can’t feel your emotions I guess that would be helpful too. Not fixed, just advice.

I just don’t know how to process this and no one responds to these things anyways (I know I sound like I’m whining but I’m a little emotional so just bare with me I guess)

I’ve been assaulted many times before but when I moved away from my family and started dating someone for the first time and fell completely in love, I thought I put it all behind me. So when my partner assaulted me it just kind of broke my brain. Not even what he did, but the fact that it happened AGAIN after I had already mentally closed that chapter and also completely placed my trust in him. It’s the fact that I was completely blindsided that I find intolerable. That I wasn’t prepared, that I lost control. I cannot separate what he did from myself and I’ve been immersed in this intense dissociative fog for the last year and a half. I have severe symptoms, I feel like it’s daytime when it’s nighttime, nothing feels real, etc. I think I feel an incredible amount of shame and self blame and I need to let my body process that so I can relax. When I cry and get insanely emotional I feel better after for about 20 minutes, even *almost* normal (one time), then the fog sets in again. And I do exposure therapy and my symptoms have definitely improved, (I have agoraphobia. When I leave the immediate area the derealization gets wayyyyyyyy worse and it’s terrifying). I’m just crashing out a little bit this morning because I don’t think my current therapist knows how to help me (she’s not a trauma therapist) and I have an appointment with a new one (yay) but I’m just frustrated and feel like I’ve wasted so much time despairing about being incurable. I haven’t felt normal or present for so long. I’ve missed out on developing friendships and even a new relationship because I’m so emotionally withdrawn and when I try to connect with people my head gets foggy and I have to go home even though part of me is still screaming for connection.

I guess I want to know if other people feel this way because it’s truly such an isolating feeling. And also if anyone who has been groomed their whole life and had the agency beaten out of them knows how to practice creating room for their emotions without attacking yourself like it’s YOUR fault you can’t feel your emotions I guess that would be helpful too. Not fixed, just advice.

I just don’t know how to process this and no one responds to these things anyways (I know I sound like I’m whining but I’m a little emotional so just bare with me I guess)

I’ve been assaulted many times before but when I moved away from my family and started dating someone for the first time and fell completely in love, I thought I put it all behind me. So when my partner assaulted me it just kind of broke my brain. Not even what he did, but the fact that it happened AGAIN after I had already mentally closed that chapter and also completely placed my trust in him. It’s the fact that I was completely blindsided that I find intolerable. That I wasn’t prepared, that I lost control. I cannot separate what he did from myself and I’ve been immersed in this intense dissociative fog for the last year and a half. I have severe symptoms, I feel like it’s daytime when it’s nighttime, nothing feels real, etc. I think I feel an incredible amount of shame and self blame and I need to let my body process that so I can relax. When I cry and get insanely emotional I feel better after for about 20 minutes, even *almost* normal (one time), then the fog sets in again. And I do exposure therapy and my symptoms have definitely improved, (I have agoraphobia. When I leave the immediate area the derealization gets wayyyyyyyy worse and it’s terrifying). I’m just crashing out a little bit this morning because I don’t think my current therapist knows how to help me (she’s not a trauma therapist) and I have an appointment with a new one (yay) but I’m just frustrated and feel like I’ve wasted so much time despairing about being incurable. I haven’t felt normal or present for so long. I’ve missed out on developing friendships and even a new relationship because I’m so emotionally withdrawn and when I try to connect with people my head gets foggy and I have to go home even though part of me is still screaming for connection.

I guess I want to know if other people feel this way because it’s truly such an isolating feeling. And also if anyone who has been groomed their whole life and had the agency beaten out of them knows how to practice creating room for their emotions without attacking yourself like it’s YOUR fault you can’t feel your emotions I guess that would be helpful too. Not fixed, just advice.