u/KTRAF_Real

Me and my girl we already had an argument about this long time ago like about, 5 months ago, I mean not that long but still, it was like really heated argument, and like I asked her clearly you need to put app lock on your phone's chat apps, like WhatsApp, Insta, Snap any other we chat with each other on.

For small context, her family members keep using each others phones and, like they even know each other's passwords as well, as she doesn't have mum and dad, lives with her uncle, his wife, his two sons, and mum's sister, and I guess they keep using each other's phone, and so they know the passwords as well.

Months back I had an argument with her when I got to know about this, I told her that our chats are in there, personal photos are in there, each kind of pics in there, my families personal pics which I haven'tshared with anyone are in there, and, she's got two phones, one day she went into one event and literally handed over her phone to his brothers because he wants to use one app, he was having issues with in his phone, I got know about this, I told her she needs to log out from that phone, and keep accounts in that one main phone, and that too put app lock on them, she did that, and since then I had confidence that, it was still there.

Today I got to know about that, she removed it, like we literally had huge argument over it, and I told her I don't feel comfortable enough as I had doubts about her one brother being nosy, and I kept telling her that, I don't how much you trust him, you have to do this, because it's just my own privacy in your hand, and I don't feel comfortable like this. And today she was cpming back from somewhere, and she told me when she came back, he took her phone to take pics, and what not, and I saw the account coming online, and I told her, how is this possible, then she told me about, removing app lock, and I was in such distress, like how can she do this, I felt betrayed, and like that phone got out chats, pics, mine, my families, and how can she do this, I only entrusted her with this, and she did that, the reason she told me was that, having difficulty again and again with face ID and Touch ID, so she removed it way way back, and that gave me shock, she didn't even tell me, didn't even bother to tell me, and we had another argument, and like she's telling me I'm overreacting.

I have no idea about this, because like am I really being the A hole? Because like this is the first time I'm seeing family full access to phones and then, having such trusts, where others concerns doesn't matter? I'm like feeling betrayed and like not comfortable completely enough now to talk to her over any of those apps, and like another thing too, her words going in my mind, like "H doesn't care (brother)", you're overreacting and all. And this is not the first time her, just doing things and not caring or disregarding words completely.

Me and my girl already had an argument about this a long time ago, about five months ago. I mean, not that long, but still, it was a really heated argument, and I asked her clearly that she needed to put an app lock on her phone’s chat apps, like WhatsApp, Insta, Snap, or any other we chat with each other on.

For small context, her family members keep using each other’s phones, and they even know each other’s passwords as well. As she doesn’t have mum and dad, she lives with her uncle, his wife, his two sons, and her mum’s sister, and I guess they keep using each other’s phones, so they know the passwords as well.

Months back I had an argument with her when I got to know about this. I told her that our chats are in there, personal photos are in there, all kinds of pics are in there, my family’s personal pics which I haven’t shared with anyone are in there. She’s got two phones, and one day she went to an event and literally handed over her phone to her brothers because he wanted to use one app he was having issues with on his phone. I got to know about this, and I told her she needed to log out from that phone and keep accounts on that one main phone, and on that one put an app lock on them. She did that, and since then I had confidence that it was still there.

Today I got to know that she removed it. We literally had a huge argument over it, and I told her I don’t feel comfortable enough as I had doubts about one of her brothers being nosy, and I kept telling her that I don’t care how much she trusts him, she has to do this, because it’s just my own privacy in her hands, and I don’t feel comfortable like this. Today she was coming back from somewhere, and she told me when she came back that he took her phone to take pics and what not, and I saw the account coming online. I told her, how is this possible? Then she told me about removing the app lock, and I was in such distress. How can she do this? I felt betrayed, and that phone has our chats, pics, mine, my family’s, and how can she do this? I only entrusted her with this, and she did that. The reason she told me was that she was having difficulty again and again with Face ID and Touch ID, so she removed it way back, and that gave me a shock. She didn’t even tell me, didn’t even bother to tell me, and we had another argument. She’s telling me I’m overreacting.

I have no idea about this, because am I really being the A-hole? Because this is the first time I’m seeing a family with full access to phones and then having such trust, where other people’s concerns don’t matter? I’m feeling betrayed and not comfortable enough now to talk to her over any of those apps. Another thing too, her words keep going in my mind, like “He doesn’t care (brother), you’re overreacting” and all. And this is not the first time she’s just doing things and not caring or disregarding words completely.

Like I get it, there must've been some issues but bigger things are at stack here.