u/JusttLivinggLifee

Anytime I’m sick, my sister just so happens to also be sick and my mom worries more about her than me. She makes a big deal out of it for my sister, but then dismisses me and says I just have allergies. It’s very weird behavior.

I just talked to my mom and I told her I was sick and we talked about it for a bit then out of the blue she tells me my sister is sick too (health issue again that she has all the time btw). It’s a health issue that is very preventable but my sister doesn’t try to prevent it so it happens often.

It just rubs me wrong, like I’m not trying to be all about me but why bring light to my sister when we are trying to figure out if I should go to the doctor or not. This always seems to happen. Also anytime my sister is sick our mom makes a big deal about it and she says “I’m sorry your sick” often but just recently I was the only one sick and she told me “you’re not sick, it’s just allergies” Which like who does that…. First off, I don’t have allergies and I’ve never had allergies. And if your daughter is sick, why be dismissive like that to begin with instead of comforting?

She is always very dismissive with me, but with my sister, she is the complete opposite. I don’t really understand it, but it really bothers me.

Few years ago me and my sister got sick at the same time and I was just updating our mom what was going on with me because I just wasn’t getting better. Well, it turns out I had pneumonia and I had to get on a certain anabiotic. Because my fevers wouldn’t break and they were getting quite high without medication.

And at the beginning of this, she didn’t believe I had pneumonia until I literally told her that I had to x-ray my chest and that’s what my doctor told me.

It was so weird every time I would update her on how high my temperature got or whatever. She would feel the need to also tell me about how my sister was doing bad too even though she didn’t have what I had, I believe she just had a head cold because she never ran a fever.

I just can’t help but to compare because it’s done right in front of my face and almost deliberately at this point.

What do you think? Am I Overreacting?

I recognize that I shouldn’t be this way, but it still happens. It doesn’t even matter who it is. I find myself comparing myself and being in competition with my sister-in-law or friends people around my age. Nothing to do with them. I am definitely the problem.

I don’t know what to do because sometimes it really affects me mentally and I know it’s not right. It’s like I always want to be the most put together, the most fit, the most pretty, the most established.

And it’s so much to the point where if someone else compliments someone in front of me I get jealous and it’s not okay…..I don’t know what to do. I find myself always in competition for no reason at all. Any advice on how to break this toxic mindset so I can just live life normally?