u/Just-Rutabaga6194

okay so basically i had a prior commitment to go with someone close to me up to another city for two weeks during his military training period and i honestly forgot until he asked about it today, the issue now is i start a new job tomorrow and im not entirely sure how to go about asking because i do really need this job but id also feel horrible if i flaked since he already made all the arrangements for me to go. what should i do? im worried they will fire me since its so soon ill be 13 days into my employment when the trip is supposed to happen and i feel like i should have brought this up during the onboarding but i honestly didnt even remember until he asked about it today and i feel like a bad person all around because i dont want to flake but i also dont want to seem unreliable to the company

so basically last night i had my boyfriend pick me up from my dads and he was kind of annoyed because it was far out of his way and he just got off work and he knows i have extreme anxiety with cars and basically made me cry to get a laugh out of it he shut his headlights off going 100 on a road that is known for crashes and that i’ve personally crashed on before and started swerving all over the road and then after i started crying and screaming at him for it he kept doing it just to scare me and he says it’s because he’s a “good driver” and it will be fine but it’s not fine to me it genuinely scares me and not only that he constantly does things like this or will drive super drunk but say it’s okay because he’s a good driver but i don’t feel okay when it happens i have severe ptsd from cars i don’t even drive myself but i don’t know what to do because no matter what i say or do he won’t stop.