u/Jumpy-Lie8955

one of my biggest pet peeves is a straight girl says “my life would be so much easier if i liked girls” because no your life wouldnt be so much easier. first of all they are often saying this is response to relationship issues and those happen no matter the gender of your partner. and two i can’t come out to my grandfather because he will stop talking to me, my mother told me i was going to hell to my face. people are kicked out for being queer, people are killed for being queer. so no your life wouldn’t “be so much easier if you liked girls”.

i love my best friend but we where talking the other night about adoption and how the argument or “carrying on the bloodline” is stupid and she said the only thing she cares about is carrying on her last name. and i was adopted as an infant in a closed adoption from another country and said that i wish my parents had kept my name because i feel like i have nothing connecting me to where i’m from or my biological family. and our dynamic is to kinda debate our opinions so she was like why would you would you want to have the same last name as the people who gave you up? and i was like life is way more complicated than simply just giving a child up. and she started telling me about how this other girl she is sort of friends with was also adopted but was adopted older and liked having her name changed and i got so mad because i wouldn’t mind having this conversation with someone else who has been adopted but i don’t need someone who has no clue what it’s like to try and debate my on my feelings.

i want to do a dna test to try and find some relatives and was wondering what dna tests others have done and their opinions on what is the best one. i was adopted from russia, are there dna tests that are more popular over that where i might have a higher likelihood of finding someone through?