Ghosted 18 years ago and I finally asked why
When I was in my 20’s I reconnected online with an old high school flame. I was in the Navy stationed in Hawaii and she lived on the east coast. Emails and phone calls rekindled my old feelings for her. Plans for her to visit me in Hawaii or me to get back to the east coast didn’t work out until my boat relocated to the east coast and I was able to get some leave around the Christmas holiday. We had been back in touch for about a year at this point. I had feelings for her and thought she may for me as well. We made plans for me to visit her and spend the night at her apartment. I didn’t know if I should tell her how I felt that night. I was nervous if she didn’t feel for me that way then it might ruin our friendship. We had a nice night and all seemed well but I didn’t tell her how I felt or make any move on her. I wanted to but just lost my nerve. I was hoping if she had feelings for me I would get some signals, but if there were any I didn’t see them. I left the next day thinking at least our friendship was still good and if romance would happen it would have to wait for next time. But then she ghosted me completely. Calls went unanswered and emails got no reply. I was hurt and confused. My only theory was that she had feelings for me and was hurt I had not made any move so she felt she had to cut me off completely to move on. Maybe it was something else entirely but I don’t know. I moved on with life. That was 18 years ago. Now I’m in my 40s, married with two kids. Recently I started thinking about her again and was hoping maybe enough time had passed that she’d be willing to talk again. I sent her an email telling her how I felt back then and asking why she ghosted me. I’ve received no reply and I guess I’m never will. But I’m glad because if I never get to know why, it won’t be because I never asked.