u/Introvert934

26 M 27 F already engaged and about to get married in 6 7 months from now. Met through family setup and in courtship for 7 8 months. Are comfortable and open with each other in everything even sexual stuff too. She does in home stitching work. suits etc. At the initial phase only had I told her my preference is for a non working housewife. She was ok with that. Now yesterday as she was ready to go to her aunt's place today she told me she is going to do a computer course for designing of suits and all. This was bit of a emotional hit for me because first of all she didn't even told me about it let alone discuss. And when I asked genuinely what she needs to learn this for, her stance was so do you want me to just remain in the kitchen. this was another defensive aspect from her. When I confronted her later she was like please don't misunderstand me I'm just doing it to better my tailoring skills and I have no intention of doing job or any major work.

Now I am torn between two things and really conflicted.

If I deny her she will agree to it. And she kept saying I am happy with what I have and I just need you and all that emotional things. To some extent that is indeed true. But I will feel really guilty of not letting her be independent and do some work for herself.

on the other hand I have my own reservations. First is the insecurity about how working partners(job or self work) get so tired and busy that they don't get to have time for each other. And I have clearly told her for me physical intimacy and sex life is really important in the long run. I don't need a relationship where we just see each other at the end of the day to sleep off and then next day again same.

Feeling really conflicted. Please suggest.

26 M 27 F already engaged and about to get married in 6 7 months from now. Met through family setup and in courtship for 7 8 months. Are comfortable and open with each other in everything even sexual stuff too. She does in home stitching work. suits etc. At the initial phase only had I told her my preference is for a non working housewife. She was ok with that. Now yesterday as she was ready to go to her aunt's place today she told me she is going to do a computer course for designing of suits and all. This was bit of a emotional hit for me because first of all she didn't even told me about it let alone discuss. And when I asked genuinely what she needs to learn this for, her stance was so do you want me to just remain in the kitchen. this was another defensive aspect from her. When I confronted her later she was like please don't misunderstand me I'm just doing it to better my tailoring skills and I have no intention of doing job or any major work.

Now I am torn between two things and really conflicted.

If I deny her she will agree to it. And she kept saying I am happy with what I have and I just need you and all that emotional things. To some extent that is indeed true. But I will feel really guilty of not letting her be independent and do some work for herself.

on the other hand I have my own reservations. First is the insecurity about how working partners(job or self work) get so tired and busy that they don't get to have time for each other. And I have clearly told her for me physical intimacy and sex life is really important in the long run. I don't need a relationship where we just see each other at the end of the day to sleep off and then next day again same.

Feeling really conflicted. Please suggest.

So Me 26 M and My Fiance 27F are engaged and in courtship since 1 year. Marriage is due in 7 8 months. At this point we are fully open and comfortable with each other. We have discussed every thing. You name it. From financial goals to Daily Life to Even Sex life.

She is affectionate and loving and I by nature am very affection loving and giving too.

Like yesterday she shared a reel to me about how couples should kiss and share physical affection daily with their partners. I too felt good about it ofcourse. She even said we will always meet at end of day like we are meeting for first time. Really endearing.

But I wonder sometimes is there any such thing as too much affection and does it make the other partner feel repulsed. Is there any limit to how should a partner (in this case me) show physical closeness and gestures like daily kissing before and after work, hugging, cuddling through night, groping lovingly from behind.

Do you guys consciously decide to show a specific amount of intimacy and romance and for that matter sex life too ?

So Me 26 M and My Fiance 27F are engaged and in courtship since 1 year. Marriage is due in 7 8 months. At this point we are fully open and comfortable with each other. We have discussed every thing. You name it. From financial goals to Daily Life to Even Sex life.

She is affectionate and loving and I by nature am very affection loving and giving too.

Like yesterday she shared a reel to me about how couples should kiss and share physical affection daily with their partners. I too felt good about it ofcourse. She even said we will always meet at end of day like we are meeting for first time. Really endearing.

But I wonder sometimes is there any such thing as too much affection and does it make the other partner feel repulsed. Is there any limit to how should a partner (in this case me) show physical closeness and gestures like daily kissing before and after work, hugging, cuddling through night, groping lovingly from behind.

Do you guys consciously decide to show a specific amount of intimacy and romance and for that matter sex life too ?