3 months ago my boyfriend moved to Australia for studies and I’m in India. Recently we were talking about the day I went to the airport to drop him off. His whole family and family friends were there, and his parents don’t know about me because they’re kind of strict. I always assumed that’s why he never told them about us, and I was okay with that.
During the call, he told me that his mom actually asked him about me after seeing me at the airport. I got a little excited because I never expected that. Then he said she asked, if he still talks to that “slim stick like figure girl” from the airport.
I felt a bit sad hearing that because that’s literally the only impression she has of me. She doesn’t know anything about me, just that I’m some “thin girl” who is his coworker. When I told him I felt a little disappointed, he tried to brush it off saying it’s a normal way people describe others in their family and he also said that he finds me perfect. Ok cute but..
But that wasn’t even the main issue for me. I told him I just felt unimportant because that’s all she knows about me. Then he said something that honestly broke me. He said he’s only 22 and doesn’t want to talk about any relationship or about me to his parents right now. He also said that he won’t marry me (or anyone) if he doesn’t settle well in life (if he doesn’t find a good job).
I always thought he didn’t tell them because they’re strict. But hearing that he himself doesn’t want to talk about me made me feel like I don’t matter as much as I thought.
We ended up fighting. I asked him if he doesn’t feel like talking about me to his parents, does he even love me. Then he hung up. I called him again to sort things out but he didn’t pick up. I texted him asking why he always leaves me hanging during issues and how I’m supposed to be with someone who isn’t there during bad times.
He replied saying it was such a small thing and I made a big mess out of nothing, and that he doesn’t have anything to say.
Now I’m just sitting here confused. Am I overreacting or is this actually something deeper?
TD;LR : my boyfriend doesn’t want to marry me or introduce me to his family until he finds a job, does he truly love me?