u/Impossible_Loss5429

Hi guys I really need some advice. I’ve never posted anywhere before but I’m currently trying to decide what to do with my life next year and I have no one unbiased to ask. I’m so sorry how long it is this is just really complex and I would really appreciate any help I can get!

Short summary: I currently am finishing my first year of my bachelors degree in the Netherlands and I moved here because it’s the only school my parents can afford. (I’m originally from the US) I have had a pretty awful year and I’m very lonely and far away from everyone here and there have been a lot of bad things that happened (psycho roomate, my apartment got broken into and robbed, had 3 bikes stolen, random eye infection for 3 weeks… just to name a few). I’m having an impossible time studying and my grades have gone to shit even though right now I have amazing friends and everything is fine, I’m mostly unhappy.

My bf goes to school in the states and I applied there as transfer because I was sick of this place and I got in so now I’m trying to figure out what to do and if I should move my whole life again. I know I’d be happier living with him but ofc that would be a big step in our relationship even though we’ve been dating since high school. I have made a pro’s and con’s list for this whole thing:

Pro’s: Be with bf!= safety and security and makes me very happy, be closer to my family! (No more time difference and can see them on a weekend if I want), grades and gpa would increase! (It’s a much easier school and I want to get my masters and PHD in psychology so it’s important I do well, research and internships opportunities! (I cannot get either of those or a job in the NL), better healthcare (it’s shit here), and probably some other things I can’t remember right now.

Con’s: have to take out ~120k loan and would work during year to pay it off, l would add a year onto my bachelors + onto my masters because in NL it’s 3 yr bachelor and 1 yr master vs US 4 yr bachelor and 2 yr masters, would lose my friends here and have to make new ones there, it’s a lot of change to adjust too.

I’m leaning towards going back to the states and my parents said they will support me no matter what I do and can give me 25k a year. Please if you guys have any thoughts I know this is really long but I’m just so all over the place about it and there’s a lot more too it so ask any questions as well but I would really appreciate any help. ❤️

Hi guys I really need some advice. I’ve never posted anywhere before but I’m currently trying to decide what to do with my life next year and I have no one unbiased to ask. I’m so sorry how long it is this is just really complex and I would really appreciate any help I can get!

Short summary: I currently am finishing my first year of my bachelors degree in the Netherlands and I moved here because it’s the only school my parents can afford. (I’m originally from the US) I have had a pretty awful year and I’m very lonely and far away from everyone here and there have been a lot of bad things that happened (psycho roomate, my apartment got broken into and robbed, had 3 bikes stolen, random eye infection for 3 weeks… just to name a few). I’m having an impossible time studying and my grades have gone to shit even though right now I have amazing friends and everything is fine, I’m mostly unhappy.

My bf goes to school in the states and I applied there as transfer because I was sick of this place and I got in so now I’m trying to figure out what to do and if I should move my whole life again. I know I’d be happier living with him but ofc that would be a big step in our relationship even though we’ve been dating since high school. I have made a pro’s and con’s list for this whole thing:

Pro’s: Be with bf!= safety and security and makes me very happy, be closer to my family! (No more time difference and can see them on a weekend if I want), grades and gpa would increase! (It’s a much easier school and I want to get my masters and PHD in psychology so it’s important I do well, research and internships opportunities! (I cannot get either of those or a job in the NL), better healthcare (it’s shit here), and probably some other things I can’t remember right now.

Con’s: have to take out ~120k loan and would work during year to pay it off, l would add a year onto my bachelors + onto my masters because in NL it’s 3 yr bachelor and 1 yr master vs US 4 yr bachelor and 2 yr masters, would lose my friends here and have to make new ones there, it’s a lot of change to adjust too.

I’m leaning towards going back to the states and my parents said they will support me no matter what I do and can give me 25k a year. Please if you guys have any thoughts I know this is really long but I’m just so all over the place about it and there’s a lot more too it so ask any questions as well but I would really appreciate any help. ❤️

TL;DR College in the states and happy but in debt or college abroad and depressed?

Hi guys I really need some advice. I’ve never posted anywhere before but I’m currently trying to decide what to do with my life next year and I have no one unbiased to ask. I’m so sorry how long it is this is just really complex and I would really appreciate any help I can get!

Short summary: I currently am finishing my first year of my bachelors degree in the Netherlands and I moved here because it’s the only school my parents can afford. (I’m originally from the US) I have had a pretty awful year and I’m very lonely and far away from everyone here and there have been a lot of bad things that happened (psycho roomate, my apartment got broken into and robbed, had 3 bikes stolen, random eye infection for 3 weeks… just to name a few). I’m having an impossible time studying and my grades have gone to shit even though right now I have amazing friends and everything is fine, I’m mostly unhappy.

My bf goes to school in the states and I applied there as transfer because I was sick of this place and I got in so now I’m trying to figure out what to do and if I should move my whole life again. I know I’d be happier living with him but ofc that would be a big step in our relationship even though we’ve been dating since high school. I have made a pro’s and con’s list for this whole thing:

Pro’s: Be with bf!= safety and security and makes me very happy, be closer to my family! (No more time difference and can see them on a weekend if I want), grades and gpa would increase! (It’s a much easier school and I want to get my masters and PHD in psychology so it’s important I do well, research and internships opportunities! (I cannot get either of those or a job in the NL), better healthcare (it’s shit here), and probably some other things I can’t remember right now.

Con’s: have to take out ~120k loan and would work during year to pay it off, l would add a year onto my bachelors + onto my masters because in NL it’s 3 yr bachelor and 1 yr master vs US 4 yr bachelor and 2 yr masters, would lose my friends here and have to make new ones there, it’s a lot of change to adjust too.

I’m leaning towards going back to the states and my parents said they will support me no matter what I do and can give me 25k a year. Please if you guys have any thoughts I know this is really long but I’m just so all over the place about it and there’s a lot more too it so ask any questions as well but I would really appreciate any help. ❤️

Hi guys I really need some advice. I’ve never posted anywhere before but I’m currently trying to decide what to do with my life next year and I have no one unbiased to ask. I’m so sorry how long it is this is just really complex and I would really appreciate any help I can get!

Short summary: I currently am finishing my first year of my bachelors degree in the Netherlands and I moved here because it’s the only school my parents can afford. (I’m originally from the US) I have had a pretty awful year and I’m very lonely and far away from everyone here and there have been a lot of bad things that happened (psycho roomate, my apartment got broken into and robbed, had 3 bikes stolen, random eye infection for 3 weeks… just to name a few). I’m having an impossible time studying and my grades have gone to shit even though right now I have amazing friends and everything is fine, I’m mostly unhappy.

My bf goes to school in the states and I applied there as transfer because I was sick of this place and I got in so now I’m trying to figure out what to do and if I should move my whole life again. I know I’d be happier living with him but ofc that would be a big step in our relationship even though we’ve been dating since high school. I have made a pro’s and con’s list for this whole thing:

Pro’s: Be with bf!= safety and security and makes me very happy, be closer to my family! (No more time difference and can see them on a weekend if I want), grades and gpa would increase! (It’s a much easier school and I want to get my masters and PHD in psychology so it’s important I do well, research and internships opportunities! (I cannot get either of those or a job in the NL), better healthcare (it’s shit here), and probably some other things I can’t remember right now.

Con’s: have to take out ~120k loan and would work during year to pay it off, l would add a year onto my bachelors + onto my masters because in NL it’s 3 yr bachelor and 1 yr master vs US 4 yr bachelor and 2 yr masters, would lose my friends here and have to make new ones there, it’s a lot of change to adjust too.

I’m leaning towards going back to the states and my parents said they will support me no matter what I do and can give me 25k a year. Please if you guys have any thoughts I know this is really long but I’m just so all over the place about it and there’s a lot more too it so ask any questions as well but I would really appreciate any help. ❤️