u/Impossible-Motor2102

Kabhi kabhi hume kisi specific person ki yaad nahi aati
bas yeh feel hota hai ki life mai koi apna nahi hai.
Koi jisse bina soche baat kar sako.
Koi jiske saath rehkar dimaag thoda shaant ho jaaye.
Koi jiska presence hi enough lage.
Aur phir achaanak raat me ya random moments me purane log yaad aane lagte hain……. purani chats, purani feelings, purane attachments.
Zaroori nahi ki unhe wapas chahiye ho,
kabhi kabhi bas dil emotionally thak jaata hai akela feel karte karte.
Mujhe lagta hai loneliness ka matlab sirf akela hona nahi hota.
Kabhi kabhi loneliness ka matlab hota hai emotionally kisi ke paas na hona.
Shayad isiliye hum un logon ko bhi miss karne lagte hain jo ab life me nahi hain.
Perfect isliye nahi kyuki
bas ek time par woh “apne” lagte the.

I don’t fully understand what’s happening with me.
Why do I constantly feel this need for someone? Why am I craving emotional support so badly? There’s this emptiness inside me that just doesn’t go away, no matter what I do.
I’ve tried keeping myself busy…..gym, studies, work, going out but nothing really fills that gap. It always comes back to the same feeling i.e. I wish I had someone to talk to, someone who understands.
The thing is, I know I’m not in the right place for a relationship right now. My job isn’t stable yet, NEET PG is coming up, I’m juggling prep + junior residency + family responsibilities. I’m basically the man of the house (my father isn’t around), so there’s pressure from all sides.
And still… I feel this strong urge to have someone in my life.
I even made a post on a relationship subreddit, but deep down I know that’s not how real relationships work. You can’t find genuine connection by asking for it out of desperation. No one is going to enter a relationship out of sympathy, and even if they do, it won’t last.
I think a big part of this is my past relationship. Earlier, I had someone I could talk to, someone who made me feel lighter. Now that she’s gone, that space feels painfully empty. Maybe I’m trying to fill that void too quickly. Maybe I’m not fully over it.
At the same time, I don’t want to drag someone else into my mess. It wouldn’t be fair to them.
I’m 27. I feel like I should be stronger than this. I keep telling myself I need to focus on building my life first like career, stability, self-respect and only then think about relationships. Because realistically, that’s when someone would actually be interested too.
But emotionally, I’m just not there.
To make things worse, I also have an eye injury that has really messed with my self-confidence and self-esteem. It’s like everything combined…..career pressure, loneliness, past relationship, self-image…..everything is hitting at once.
I don’t know what exactly I’m expecting from this post. Maybe just to vent. Maybe to know if someone else has felt this way and gotten through it.
Right now, it just feels like I’m stuck between knowing what’s right… and not being able to feel okay.

Night duty hai guys ER mai. Kaafi tough time jaa raha hai. Insaan ki life ek jhatke mai kya se kya ho jaati hai woh yahi aakar pata chalta hai. Aakhir mai jana toh lakdiyon mai hi hai. Pata nahi kis liye itni mehenat kar rahe hai?

I don’t even know where to start. I’m just tired… mentally, emotionally, everything.
I don’t fight with anyone, I don’t interfere in anyone’s life, I don’t even talk much. I just try to mind my own business and do my work. If someone asks for help, I help. Still, I feel like I’m the one constantly getting crushed under everything.
Nothing seems to be going right. I can’t focus on my studies, gym is going nowhere, job feels unstable, and on top of that there’s constant pressure from family about NEET PG and comparisons with others. The environment at home is already messed up, so there’s no peace anywhere.
I fell in love with someone who loved me first. I was serious about her, even wanted to marry her… and she just left me in the middle of everything. No closure, nothing. Just gone.
I can’t even talk to my family about how I feel. Coming from a conservative tier-3 city, I already know they won’t understand. So I just keep everything inside.
It feels like this pain just doesn’t end — dukh, dard, peeda… it’s constant. I want to cry, but even that doesn’t happen anymore.
On top of everything, the whole system feels stacked against me i.e. general category, insane competition, uncertainty everywhere. I’ve lost consistency, discipline, motivation… everything.
I feel like I’m just drifting deeper into darkness with no clear way out. No hope, no direction, nothing to hold onto.

I genuinely don’t know what to do anymore.

If you’re tired of confusion, mixed signals, and half-effort then this might be worth your time.

I’ll keep this simple and direct.

I’m 27M, working as a Junior Resident in a government hospital, currently preparing for NEET PG. Life is structured…..duty hours, studies, and long-term goals. I take my work and future seriously, and I expect the same clarity in personal life.

I’m looking for a stable, long-term relationship. Not casual, not “let’s see,” and definitely not something driven by confusion or inconsistency.

What I value:

- Emotional maturity & stability-ability to handle situations without unnecessary drama
- Clear communication - no ego clashes, no mind games
- Consistency - effort should be mutual, not one-sided
- Medico is a plus, but not necessary- mindset matters more than profession
- Self-awareness- you understand yourself and are willing to grow
- Health conscious- discipline in any form is attractive
- Independent yet family-oriented- I believe in equal partnership

What I don’t align with:

- Mixed signals or hot-cold behavior
- Attention-seeking or validation dependency
- Expecting a partner to “fix” everything emotionally
- Lack of clarity about intentions

About me:
I’m calm, grounded, and I don’t entertain unnecessary drama. I invest genuinely, but I also expect the same level of clarity, respect, and effort in return.

If you’re clear about wanting something real and can match this energy, feel free to reach out.

Otherwise, it’s better not to start.

Hi, I’m 27M, currently working as a JR(junior resident) in a government hospital. Life abhi ekdum overload mode mein chal rahi hai—duty hours, NEET PG prep, family expectations… aur upar se heartbreak.

MBBS karte waqt lagta tha bas degree mil jaaye, life set ho jayegi. Reality hits different. Yahan aake samajh aata hai ki paisa kitni mehnat se aata hai… aur phir bhi society MBBS ko itni value nahi deti jitni hum soch ke aate hain. Fir bolte hain “specialist bano”—toh bhai NEET PG ki rat race mein ghuso. Aur wo bhi aisa exam jahan lagta hai ki poori zindagi yaad rakhni hai—notes, lectures, MCQs, PYQs… kabhi kabhi lagta hai memory test chal raha hai ya clinical sense ka?

Job ke saath prepare karo toh thak jao, bina job ke karo toh gharwaalon ka pressure + financial dependency. Kab tak paise maange? Ek point ke baad self-respect bhi hit hoti hai.

Aur phir aata hai pyaar…

Mera 7 saal ka relationship tha. First relationship. Galtiyaan meri thi—gussa, frustration, smoking, distracted rehna, ego, uski respect na dena… maanta hu. Par kya 7 saal ka sab kuch ek second mein khatam ho sakta hai? Jab mujhe uski sabse zyada zarurat thi—job + exam prep ke beech—tab hi woh chali gayi.

Aaj bhi samajh nahi aata ki uske liye itna easy kaise tha move on karna.

Main abhi tak us phase mein atka hua hu—na photos delete ho rahi hain, na chats, na number. Bas andar hi andar sab chal raha hai. Ek relationship ne itna tod diya ki ab kisi new ladki se baat karne ki himmat nahi hoti. Trust hi khatam ho gaya hai.

Sach bolu toh ab lagta hai pyaar mere liye bana hi nahi hai. Shaadi bhi tabhi karunga jab genuinely feel hoga, warna kisi aur ki life kharab nahi karni.

Kabhi kabhi lagta hai ek hi time pe life sab kuch test kar leti hai—career, patience, emotions, self-worth… sab.

Agar koi iss phase se nikla hai ya deal kar raha hai, kaise handle kiya tumne?

Would really appreciate some real advice.

(Wrote my thoughts on chat gpt and got it edited on it).