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Please guide me as i am struggling with the present residency. General Surgery was NOT my 1st choice. But i had to make my peace with what i was getting.

I left my dream of Pursuing Residency in USA(USMLE) for this. The residency here is shit with the highest level of toxicity and scut work with least hands on due to large no. of residents and seniors.

Is it advisable to leave this Seat to pursue USMLE as i have been thinking about it a lot. It feels like I left my dream just to adjust here.🙂🙂

I recently opened my clinic in a lower-income neighborhood of a Tier 1 city. Barring one very amicable gentleman and my own family members, no one has turned up for treatments or follow-up (after consultation), not even for basic cleanings.

These factors I don't think work against me:

1. my fees are considerably lower than the 4-year-old clinic nearby

2. I'm confident I've diagnosed their conditions correctly and prescribed the correct meds so far

3. I'm not an asshole

I'm assuming some of you have visited a dentist before and some among you must have decided never to go back.

What were the turn offs/red flags?

I'd appreciate some insight.

Hey,

This is honestly a bit embarrassing to post, but I need a reality check.

My boyfriend of over 1.5 years recently started a surgery residency after clearing PG NEET. During the break between his previous residency and this one, we spent time together and he showed interest in me and the relationship.

However, he’s always been a very pragmatic person. I don’t know how to say this gently, but he’s quite emotionally reserved. He says things like he doesn’t “miss” me (or anyone), and even mentioned he doesn’t feel the need for us to NOT be long-distance because he simply doesn’t have time to see my daily anyway. When I try to talk about it, he says medical residency, especially surgery, is extremely demanding, and as an example, all he thinks about when going to sleep is his patients.

I’ve also seen the toll this field has taken on him. When we met, he was an intern, relatively happy and relaxed. Now he seems constantly stressed, both physically and emotionally. It is quite heartbreaking to see how much he has changed over the course of the time. It has taken quite a toll on his health too.

What’s really bothering me is this: we haven’t had a phone call in over 3 weeks. Before that, he used to call every 2–3 days when he could. He told me his schedule is unpredictable, so I decided to wait for him to initiate contact. Since then, his texts have become sparse and very direct. He says he’ll call me back, and he did set up a call with me too, but then apologised and said he got busy. I panicked and got really worried about this, given the long nature of us not being in touch, but he said that he will get back to me, and that work is overwhelming right now.

I’m struggling to understand or rationalise this. Is residency really so intense that someone can’t spare even 2–5 minutes for a call?

When we mer, he once mentioned that he had gotten more numb and frustrated over time, which he had not expected and something he wasn’t before. He had also constantly told me his life would only get more busier as he starts this residency. However, I also know that I am generally very empathetic, so I need to know if I am letting myself be extremely sidelined because he’s so important to me.

I’ve decided to stop initiating contact for now and see what happens. I’m aware of the general perception around residency (including things like infidelity), and I know people often say “look at how someone treats you.” But I still have this lingering hope that maybe this is normal or excusable given his situation.

I don’t know anyone in medicine, and all my friends think this is emotional neglect and not okay. I just don’t know what to believe.

For context, this is the same person who has also driven 2 hours to see me after a 24 hour shift once, and late at night straight with his scrubs, when we were in the same city. So, I do not know how to look at it holistically.

TL;DR: Boyfriend started a very demanding surgery residency, hasn’t called me in 3 weeks, and barely texts. Says he’s too overwhelmed with work. Is this normal for residents, or am I being emotionally neglected?

My sister is about to complete her md in paediatrics from a govt med college in kerala. She also did her ug in the same govt medical college.

However during her pg, she realised that the stress is too much than she can handle and gets sever anxiety attacks for which she had to seek psychiatric care.

So, both her and we as a family have sort of decided not to continue her clinical profession. But that begs the question-what next for her?

She is academically very brilliant-securing rank in her university exam and one of the highest scores both in her ug and pg entrance and distinction in her pg final exam.

Any help is welcome.

I was preparing for step2 when the news of H1B visa came i left it and started preparing for NEET and I had 2 reads and had a good momentum, and when the match result was announced i am confused about usmle vs Neet. so I haven't read anyhting since 16marcg.

I just dont have it in me to study, I cant pick up my book even if I do I take my mobile and doomscroll on instagram. Also I am feeling unusually sleepy, I sleep at 10 at night, wakeup at 8. also 2 hours in the afternoon. Idk I am neither able to study nor decide for USMLE or NEET.

I have been on antidepressants before, but right now I am not even feeling depressed, idk whats happening

Anybody else in this position before ? what should I Do?

Should I visit my.psychiatrist again?

This may seem like a rant ….So the corebtr customer rep finally replied to my texts related to various complaints etc and just said we got 60,000+ subs so cant resolve lol. Anyway just going by rough numbers if out of those 60k lets assume 20k are from cerebellum mission/ old btr subscription and taking 8k per subscription as an average ( for ref it ranges between 5k to 12k ) . Zv made easily 35-40 Cr like that only and thats not assuming the profits shes gonna get from selling notes ( another 2.5k per copy)

Man thats the money which top of game consultants make in top corporates working their asses off over 5-6 years. So maybe when people complain about app issues bc they literally bought it and its their right, her 25 yo catatonic “ thank you soooo much maaaaaam, you are doing so much for us maaaam” dementia ridden ducks stop attacking people. Its at the end of the day business which shes extremely good at , no hate to her but to her idiotic minions - smell some coffee!! lol

25 y/o MBBS grad here and I feel like we’re all just blindly chasing the same few countries without thinking long ter

everywhere I look it’s USMLE / PLAB / AMC, but when you actually dig deeper, each of these paths seems to have serious downsides now

US → insane competition + visa uncertainty

UK → NHS burnout + not great pay

Canada → extremely limited seats

Australia → getting more competitive

Germany → language barrier + long pathway

and on top of that, the whole global situation feels kinda unstable rn… makes me wonder if we’re overestimating the “abroad = better life” idea

I’m genuinely trying to think 10–20 years ahead: where is it actually safe and stable to settle as a doctor?

or does it make more sense to just stay in India, crack NEET PG/INI, and build a career here instead?

would you still choose the same path if you were starting today?

looking for honest opinions, not the usual “US is best bro” type answers