u/Important-Whereas284

Hey all, I’m [21F] and recently entering the dating pool for the first time, and I just wanted some words of advice for me to keep with me along this journey from those with more experience.

Does the relationship that ticks all of your boxes really exist?

How do you know when you’ve met “the one”?

Should you settle for decent enough?

What advice would you give your 21yo self?

Feel free to post your personal stories in depth or just things to keep in mind, all of your wisdom is greatly appreciated!

I (21F) broke up with my boyfriend (of 4.5 years) about a month ago. The relationship ended because over time I didn’t feel desired, loved or valued. I communicated my needs (more affection, romance, effort, feeling appreciated), but nothing really changed, and I started to feel taken for granted. I also feel I have matured a lot more than him over the course of our relationship.

I still care about him, and things have ended on friendship terms, but I’ve been feeling more at peace lately and have been focusing on myself, going out, and getting more comfortable being alone.

I don’t want to jump into another relationship at all, but I’ve never been on a date with anyone else before, and part of me is just curious to meet new people and see what’s out there — even if it’s just casual or turns into friendship.

Is it too soon to start doing that after a month? Or is it better to give it more time?

Thanks in advance.