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Hi everyone, I’m 5 weeks postpartum and living in Bangalore. I’m a software engineer, so I usually look for logic, but I’ve been feeling very anxious lately about traditional recovery rules.

I didn't dry my hair 100% for the first month, used cold water for my hands/feet, and didn't always cover my ears. Now I have a lot of phlegm, head pressure, and recently had a 'chill' with flu-like symptoms.

My elders say this will affect me for life and cause aches in future ? and I’m terrified I’ve caused permanent damage. Has anyone else 'missed' these rules and been okay later?

Hi everyone, I’m 5 weeks postpartum and living in Bangalore. I’m a software engineer, so I usually look for logic, but I’ve been feeling very anxious lately about traditional recovery rules.

I didn't dry my hair 100% for the first month, used cold water for my hands/feet, and didn't always cover my ears. Now I have a lot of phlegm, head pressure, and recently had a 'chill' with flu-like symptoms.

My elders say this will affect me for life and give me aches, and I’m terrified I’ve caused permanent damage. Has anyone else 'missed' these rules and been okay later?

I’m postpartum and dealing with intense rage during stressful moments like failed latching or nonstop crying. Yesterday I laid my baby down angrily on the bed during overwhelm and it scared me afterward because I never want my anger to affect him.

I think a lot of my anger is connected to unresolved resentment in my marriage and complicated feelings around pregnancy/motherhood. My husband is supportive now, but old hurt and loss of control are surfacing very strongly postpartum. I said no multiple times but he got me pregnant when I wasn’t ready as it was a new marriage and an arranged marriage too .

Sometimes the reaction feels much bigger than the actual situation happening in front of me. Has anyone experienced postpartum rage tied to unresolved relationship pain or resentment? Did it improve with time?

I’m postpartum and struggling with really intense anger and rage, especially during stressful moments like failed latching, nonstop crying, or when I feel overwhelmed. Sometimes I shout and recently I got scared by how angry I became. Yesterday I laid my baby down on the bed angrily during a moment of overwhelm and it scared me afterward because I never want my anger to affect him.

I think a lot of it is connected to unresolved feelings in my marriage. Early in the marriage there were many times I said no but my husband continued anyway and got me pregnant despite me saying no and not ready . At other times when I wanted intimacy or emotional connection, I felt rejected and unseen. we were recently married and never really explored anything much together and I carried a lot of resentment and hurt quietly. He is a workaholic also addicted to his stupid phone all the time . He is a very responsible and caring partner otherwise .

I also did not want the pregnancy initially, but I still chose to continue it trusting my intuitions. My husband is supportive now during postpartum, which is why my feelings confuse me. I don’t hate him, but I think all the old emotions are surfacing now that I’m exhausted, postpartum, constantly touched out, and emotionally overwhelmed.

The anger feels much bigger than the actual situation in front of me. Like the baby not latching becomes connected to all these older feelings underneath.

Has anyone experienced postpartum rage mixed with unresolved relationship resentment or complicated feelings about pregnancy/motherhood? Did it get better with time?