I’m 21 to preface, and my parents are always odd about me dating someone they always are like I wanna meet this guy? Or come to their own conclusions and end up not liking them; sometimes I just wanna talk to someone and not have to worry about them seeing my parents.
Physical assault by my sister
My sister is in a field that’s kind of small but very respected and she just graduated and is teaching her peers now her craft. When my family came down for her graduation we ran into her students and I was attracted to that guy immediately and it was the same for him. She encouraged me to talk to him but only for the ego boost and said “Don’t engage with this guy he’s a bad guy a player yk,”
The connection was there and I gave him my number we talked for a while but I didn’t want to lie to my sister so I told her the situation and apologized and she was hurt so I gave her space and I understood her feelings, especially with her saying I betrayed her.
I don’t want to mess with her career, but I really like this guy. I thought of meeting him this weekend and I told my mom and she proceeded to make disparaging comments about my body especially my genitals calling me easy and dirty and other words along the lines. My mom told me to leave her house while my sister was in town and I did because I couldn’t convince her to let me stay and promise to not bother her, mind you my mother isn’t even home she had a surgery recently and is two states over. My mom calls my sister and tells her of the plan I had and she comes over to my dad’s house when I got home and knocks on the door of the room I’m in.
I open the door and she starts getting in my face asking if I think it’s a joke to mess with her career like this, I tell her her to get out of my face and she shoves me and starts to attack me pinning me to my bed and is attacking me. My dad sees from the door my sister is on top of me yelling about why would I betray her like this she’s such a good sister to me, why do I do this? And then she says for someone so fat you’re still weak, and then when I say you’re going to JAIL for attacking me. She says you can get institutionalized knowing I have bipolar and I didn’t even initiate this, my dad breaks it up.
And my sister takes my phone after seeing me dial the police and runs out my mother on the phone convinces her to give back my phone we all FaceTime as a meeting. My mom says this situation is fucked up and all my fault because I can’t listen to my sister and she asked me to leave 10 people alone and I can’t do that, and I have nothing to offer but my genitals. I ignore her hang up the phone go upstairs and call the police, my sister is gone by the time they come and my mom is pissed over the phone arguing about semantics cause the cop said I was hiding upstairs but I wasn’t just separating myself and I didn’t say that anyway. I give my statement and the cop warns my dad that because he said nothing was happening when he first got there he could be jailed for hindering an investigation. And my dad was like it’s just a sisterly squabble. My sister and I are both over the ages of 18.
Before this my mom was on the phone saying the police will drop the charges and I can’t be upset about my decisions leading to my sisters’ actions that I don’t like, and I need to understand that my actions caused this. And that if my sister gets arrested they will throw the case out because my parents will hire a lawyer for her. I didn’t even press charges just documentation. And my mother kicked me out saying I am not allowed back into her home for a while because I decided to make this bigger than it was and I’m going to live the consequences. And she said I’m doing this to hold this against my sister’s head. My dad was upset saying now his housing is in the balance but it isn’t cause my sister doesn’t even live in this state, but she can get into a lot of trouble because of where she committed the assault.
Personally, I just need to know if I’m crazy because now I’m regretting to have called the cops because it’s like everything got so much worse.