u/Ill_Cap1921

We recently decided to go no contact with my parents. I have a husband and twins who are 7. We have been going back and forth on favoritism from my family towards my brother for years. I am adopted as well and my younger brother and my older brother is not- he is biological. Our whole lives have been witness to my older brother getting more attention and more help or monetary help. He’s divorced and essentially helpless. My mom caters to his kids and does everything like pick ups babysitting etc but only helps me when I ask. She just does it for him.
We’ve been going on a Family vacation with my mom dad brother and his kids plus my younger brother to New England. My younger brother only lives a few hours from our destination but my older brother and I (and parents)live in the Midwest. Last year mom dad brother and kids rented a car and drove to New England my mom and dad paid for the rental but my family drove our leased car. We have been planning this vacay again all year and saving up but we cannot drive our leased car again. It’s too many miles. My parents are again renting a car for my brother and his kids and my mom and dad are going in that car. When I looked at the car rental it’s going to be 1,000.00!! It’s so crazy expensive - we’ve had significant medical bills this year and black mold in our basement which has costed us thousands of dollars to remedy. My mom knows this. When we mentioned we couldn’t afford the rental and asked for help she refused and told us since we committed we needed to find a way. I lost my shit because they’re paying for a rental for my brother and themselves but refuse to help us it’s 1,000.00. We don’t have another reliable car to drive and they won’t drive their own cars. They’re also paying for an air bnb for my brother and kids.
My kids have noticed the inequality towards them and their cousins and it’s affecting them. We warned our parents if the favoritism keeps happening we would have to cut them off and I feel like the car rental thing is just the final straw so we are officially no contact now. Mind you this has been my whole life.. so many examples but now my kids are noticing and of course my husband. I’m heartbroken it’s come to this because I love my dad but my mom is so controlling there’s no way we can only have a relationship with him. It’s too bad and I’m sad. I hope I won’t regret this!

We recently decided to go no contact with my parents. I have a husband and twins who are 7. We have been going back and forth on favoritism from my family towards my brother for years. I am adopted as well and my younger brother and my older brother is not- he is biological. Our whole lives have been witness to my older brother getting more attention and more help or monetary help. He’s divorced and essentially helpless. My mom caters to his kids and does everything like pick ups babysitting etc but only helps me when I ask. She just does it for him.
We’ve been going on a Family vacation with my mom dad brother and his kids plus my younger brother to New England. My younger brother only lives a few hours from our destination but my older brother and I (and parents)live in the Midwest. Last year mom dad brother and kids rented a car and drove to New England my mom and dad paid for the rental but my family drove our leased car. We have been planning this vacay again all year and saving up but we cannot drive our leased car again. It’s too many miles. My parents are again renting a car for my brother and his kids and my mom and dad are going in that car. When I looked at the car rental it’s going to be 1,000.00!! It’s so crazy expensive - we’ve had significant medical bills this year and black mold in our basement which has costed us thousands of dollars to remedy. My mom knows this. When we mentioned we couldn’t afford the rental and asked for help she refused and told us since we committed we needed to find a way. I lost my shit because they’re paying for a rental for my brother and themselves but refuse to help us it’s 1,000.00. We don’t have another reliable car to drive and they won’t drive their own cars. They’re also paying for an air bnb for my brother and kids.
My kids have noticed the inequality towards them and their cousins and it’s affecting them. We warned our parents if the favoritism keeps happening we would have to cut them off and I feel like the car rental thing is just the final straw so we are officially no contact now. Mind you this has been my whole life.. so many examples but now my kids are noticing and of course my husband. I’m heartbroken it’s come to this because I love my dad but my mom is so controlling there’s no way we can only have a relationship with him. It’s too bad and I’m sad. I hope I won’t regret this!

We recently decided to go no contact with my parents. I have a husband and twins who are 7. We have been going back and forth on favoritism from my family towards my brother for years. I am adopted as well and my younger brother and my older brother is not- he is biological. Our whole lives have been witness to my older brother getting more attention and more help or monetary help. He’s divorced and essentially helpless. My mom caters to his kids and does everything like pick ups babysitting etc but only helps me when I ask. She just does it for him.
We’ve been going on a Family vacation with my mom dad brother and his kids plus my younger brother to New England. My younger brother only lives a few hours from our destination but my older brother and I (and parents)live in the Midwest. Last year mom dad brother and kids rented a car and drove to New England my mom and dad paid for the rental but my family drove our leased car. We have been planning this vacay again all year and saving up but we cannot drive our leased car again. It’s too many miles. My parents are again renting a car for my brother and his kids and my mom and dad are going in that car. When I looked at the car rental it’s going to be 1,000.00!! It’s so crazy expensive - we’ve had significant medical bills this year and black mold in our basement which has costed us thousands of dollars to remedy. My mom knows this. When we mentioned we couldn’t afford the rental and asked for help she refused and told us since we committed we needed to find a way. I lost my shit because they’re paying for a rental for my brother and themselves but refuse to help us it’s 1,000.00. We don’t have another reliable car to drive and they won’t drive their own cars. They’re also paying for an air bnb for my brother and kids.
My kids have noticed the inequality towards them and their cousins and it’s affecting them. We warned our parents if the favoritism keeps happening we would have to cut them off and I feel like the car rental thing is just the final straw so we are officially no contact now. Mind you this has been my whole life.. so many examples but now my kids are noticing and of course my husband. I’m heartbroken it’s come to this because I love my dad but my mom is so controlling there’s no way we can only have a relationship with him. It’s too bad and I’m sad. I hope I won’t regret this!