I just realized my husband text book "red-pilled"/"dread game"d me since we got married...
I just saw a post on THT from a husband that honestly could have been mine... he laid out how he went to far with the 'dread game' on his wife and now he's ruined her mental health. I had no idea 'dread game' was an actual thing.... curious, I looked it up and it's a play-by-play of how my husband has been treating me for years. Red-pilling/dread game.
In the last few months I finally came out of my shell and talked to someone that at least showed me his manipulation and allowed me to standup to it somewhat, but I was still trying to give my husband some credit. Maybe he's so emotionally traumatized he doesn't know what he's doing to hurt and try to manipulate me. And maybe he's right that I should do better to make him happy and meet his needs... I was still agreeing that I was the failure overall and if I just worked harder to make him happy things would maybe be ok.
Until I read the instructions on how to use the "dread game" to get what you want from your wife.... I was so stupid. It was EXACTLY everything he's been doing - I won't detail here you can look up. It was so exact that red-pilling explained if I started to stand up for myself (as I did a few months ago) how to handle my 'defiance' and regain control through sympathy.... EVERYTHING he's been doing since I started to have a slight backbone a few months ago. I feel disgusting... like a science project.
There is no possible way a person can love you and do this to someone. I mentioned to him, hey, have you ever heard of 'dread game' off handed.... and he quickly said he hadn't heard of it and asked an unrelated question about insurance. If he didn't know what it was he would never not ask 'what is that, why would you ask'. It's like he was embarrassed that I know now. I'm making plans, but please everyone here look it up if you have not heard about it. It's eye opening.... I can't believe I've wasted so many years being purposefully manipulated, I really just thought he was so damaged he couldn't possibly know how he's treating me. How blind.