How do I accept that someone important to me is moving into a new phase of life?
I am a straight guy. I have an uncle (my mother’s brother), and he is the only person in this world I truly trust — not even my own parents. My parents are toxic for me. A few years ago, I used to live with my uncle in a flat, and we became extremely close. He is only 10 years older than me, and honestly, I don’t even see him as just an uncle sometimes — he feels more like my best friend. I share everything with him, and he shares his life and problems with me too. But for the past few years, he has been talking about getting married, and that has been bothering me a lot. I want him to be happy because he has always supported and cared for me, but deep inside, I feel scared and uncomfortable. The thing that hurts me the most is imagining him becoming emotionally and physically close to someone else. Thinking about him being intimate with his future wife makes me feel weird, jealous, and sad. It’s not sexual attraction or arousal — it’s more like a fear that someone else will take my place in his life. I’m scared that after marriage, he’ll become busy with his wife, kids, and new responsibilities, and the bond we have now will slowly disappear. I’ve seen many people change after marriage, and I’m terrified that the same thing will happen to us. I know it may sound strange, so I never tell him about these thoughts. But it’s really hard for me to deal with these feelings alone. What should I do? Is this something I just have to accept? If yes, then how can I accept it without feeling so hurt? Please help.