u/Ihavebadkneees

I'll start by saying my dad has never pressured me to have kids, but I do think for a long time he thought it was a phase i'd grow out of it. Especially since my brother was on the childfree train until he wasn't 😉

A couple of weeks ago my dad and I were babysitting my 6 year old niece, and after she went to bed we were sitting on the couch and he turned to me and said "aren't you glad you don't have your own?!" - not necessarily in a bad way, my niece is a gorgeous, fun kid and I love her to bits, but I think he's more understanding of how hard having kids is AND that my energy and personality would just not be suited to having kids at all.

It was such a nice feeling and honestly I was kind of surprised how much that recognition meant to me, it was so affirming in such an unexpected way.

Yall, accutane and some recent highlights are ruuuuining my curls. I normally do fine with color treating, but I think that alongside being on accutane was probably a stupid idea lol.

Current routine was very simple:
- Wash 1-2x a week with innersense pure harmony hairbath
- condition with something light (I have a bunch I cycle through) and occasionally the redken acidic bonding concentrate
- style with r+co cool wind and innersense i create hold. I brush through with the bounce curl volume brush and I'll typically finger roll the very front section.
- Diffuse upside down
- Pineapple at night with satin pillowcase

Hair details: 2C/3A, fine, high density, low porosity

Typically anything heavy has weighed my hair down, but because my scalp and hair are so dry nothing that I have is doing the job. I just styled this morning with the pattern leave in conditioner and it's looking alright, but not great (but that's saying a lot since this product used to be too heavy for my hair type).

I'd like to stay with my shampoo, but can anyone recommend a conditioner, cowash, and/or styling product that has worked for your fine and dry hair?