u/IcyDream3938

Hello folks, I am 20F from North India. Around me, there is not much awareness about sexuality so I am asking here because I can’t understand my own sexuality.

like watching gay porn, I also like watching straight porn and recently I have started liking lesbian porn too.

I had a relationship where I kissed and hugged my boyfriend (straight male). But that relationship was 3 years ago, and at that time I didn’t think much about sexuality and all. He proposed to me. I was not very mature either, so it was a simple relationship and we never had sex. I am still a virgin.

The thing is, I don’t understand whether I like boys or girls. Although most of my friends are male and I do sexting with them, sometimes it makes me feel empty. Sexting turns me on, but for orgasm I imagine myself as a man. Since I started masturbating, I have always imagined myself as a man, like I am touching a female body in that way.

I want to understand how I can figure this out. I do enjoy my body and masturbation feels good but sometimes it becomes very exhausting and I start feeling disgusted with myself. I also like seeing nudes of girls (especially my preferred body type).

How do I figure out what my sexuality is?

Tldr: 20F from North India, not much awareness around me about sexuality. I enjoy different types of porn (gay, straight, lesbian) and had a past relationship with a guy but no sexual experience. I am confused whether I am attracted to men or women. I sext with male friends but sometimes feel empty. During masturbation, I often imagine myself as a man with a woman. I also like seeing female bodies. Trying to understand what my sexuality is and why I feel this confusion.

Guys, I am currently in Bihar attending a wedding and I wanted to ask something. Is the dowry situation really this extreme?

An elderly woman was asking me what I do and all that. I am 18f, her son works in an insurance company and earns around ₹35,000 per month. They also have property in two places and about 5 bighas of land. She was saying they would take ₹50 lakh as dowry. Is that actually normal?

I am completely against dowry but my parents are not. And I know they will definitely give something. I have had many heated arguments with my mother about this but she doesn’t listen.

So my question is: even if my parents give dowry, why does it have to be so much? First, give dowry money, then also provide furniture, TV, fridge and also bear the entire wedding expenses?

I am still studying and I want to pursue my education with minimal expenses. I want to achieve a lot in life and I will. But the thing is, more successful girls are expected to marry into bigger families, and because of that, even more dowry has to be given.

I have a relative who works as an HR in a company, earns well and is very beautiful. But her proposals are being rejected because she earns more than the men. People on the internet say that girls don’t want to marry men from less privileged backgrounds, but the truth is that many men don’t want to marry women who are more successful than them because their ego gets hurt.

That’s why my mother keeps looking for marriage proposals for me from time to time, thinking that if I get a good job later, they will have to give even more dowry.

What is this? No hate to anyone,I am just asking.

Tldr: Are huge dowries (like ₹50L+) really common in Bihar? Seeking honest insights.

Guys, I am currently in Bihar attending a wedding and I wanted to ask something. Is the dowry situation really this extreme?

An elderly woman was asking me what I do and all that. I am 18f, her son works in an insurance company and earns around ₹35,000 per month. They also have property in two places and about 5 bighas of land. She was saying they would take ₹50 lakh as dowry. Is that actually normal?

I am completely against dowry but my parents are not. And I know they will definitely give something. I have had many heated arguments with my mother about this but she doesn’t listen.

So my question is: even if my parents give dowry why does it have to be so much? First, give dowry money, then also provide furniture,TV, fridge, etc and also bear the entire wedding expenses?

I am still studying and I want to pursue my education with minimal expenses. I want to achieve a lot in life, and I will. But the thing is, more successful girls are expected to marry into bigger families and because of that, even more dowry has to be given.

I have a relative who works as an HR in a company, earns well and is very beautiful. But her proposals are being rejected because she earns more than the men. People on the internet say that girls don’t want to marry men from less privileged backgrounds, but the truth is that many men don’t want to marry women who are more successful than them because their ego gets hurt.

That’s why my mother keeps looking for marriage proposals for me from time to time, thinking that if I get a good job later, they will have to give even more dowry.

What is this? No hate to anyone, I am just asking. I want to know your experiences.

Guys, I am currently in Bihar attending a wedding and I wanted to ask something. Is the dowry situation really this extreme?

An elderly woman was asking me what I do and all that. I am 18f and I come from the Bhumihar community. Her son works in an insurance company and earns around ₹35,000 per month. They also have property in two places and about 5 bighas of land. She was saying they would take ₹50 lakh as dowry. Is that actually normal?

I am completely against dowry but my parents are not. And I know they will definitely give something. I have had many heated arguments with my mother about this, but she doesn’t listen.

So my question is: even if my parents give dowry why does it have to be so much? First, give dowry money, then also provide furniture, TV, fridge, etc and also bear the entire wedding expenses?

I am still studying and I want to pursue my education with minimal expenses. I want to achieve a lot in life and I will. But the thing is, more successful girls are expected to marry into bigger families and because of that even more dowry has to be given.

I have a relative who works as a HR in a company, earns well and is very beautiful. But her proposals are being rejected because she earns more than the men. People on the internet say that girls don’t want to marry men from less privileged backgrounds but the truth is that many men don’t want to marry women who are more successful than them because their ego gets hurt.

That’s why my mother keeps looking for marriage proposals for me from time to time, thinking that if I get a good job later, they will have to give even more dowry.

What is this? Are all Bhumihars like this? No hate to anyone, I am just asking. And please don’t turn this into a male vs female debate. I just want to know your experiences and the ground reality. It would be helpful if you also mention your district.

I know this post might feel a bit weird for this subreddit, but it is a practical issue. I hope you all won’t mind.

Tldr: Are huge dowries (like ₹50L+) really common among Bhumihars? Seeking on ground insights.