i was near to get a SA's as a younge kid and its still come up in my mind from time to time and I need advice to overcome it
I (now 25M) got in more than once experience where I felt uncomfortable.
It's my first time confessing this, and I never told anyone about before.
The first time happened when I was 12 yo or younger , me and my father used to go to the men hot spa ( the one with a big pool and you got to rub your skin hard to remove all the death skin and dirt) every couple of months , my father cleaned me and I got dressed and waited for him in the car while it was his time to rub himself and then shower , we had very high car like truck that you need to climb it and also was parked away from other cars and people ,so no one was able to full reach me easily trough the window , but some guy came close and start talking to me and wanted me to open the door for him to talk better ,when I refused he started to tell me let go to get things for me from the market while waiting for my father to come ,also i didn't act and when felt like someone is coming close to the car he left immediately.
the second time was also in the same place and i was older and still under 18 , but inside next to the pool , I was sitting alone and my father was chatting with other in the pool where random guy came out of nowhere and set next to me very close (the sitting spots is like a room where you put your things and others shouldn't come in the same spot).
I was a little drowsy because of the steam, and he asked me if I came alone and I said no im with my father, and he asked me which one was he, and I told him.
then for like 3 to 5 minutes he didn't say a thing and started to close the distance between us until our hands touched, I took my hand back but he did the same again ,then i figured out what happening and panicked and run out of the pool and went out to the car , my father asked me why I did that but I kept quiet and didn't tell him.
the rest were just gay people approaching me online or irl, and this happened before and 18 yo to my 20 i guess, and then it's stopped.
since then, im very terrified by gay ,tran,fem, or any not straight men.
I don't look cute or beautiful or give any gay signs, and it makes me depressed
the memories keep coming in my head, and it made me feel less as man and always scared to face other men even in a fight