Reconnecting with abuser
Hey everyone. Looking for some advice. So…my brother and I have been no contact for years now. For context he sexually abused me growing up and is 5 years my senior. A couple years ago I finally got the courage to tell my parents about what happened to me. He lashed out, cursed me out, and called me all sorts of names. Along with what he did to me as a child, I went no contact with him and my parents helped to facilitate that. Fast forward a couple years he expresses a desire to reach out, and to make amends. I suggest a letter initially because mind you I don’t feel as though I have the courage to quote see him yet. My father and mom are acting as facilitators. Then, after some conversation my brother concluded that he doesn’t want to write a letter, he’d rather have a sit down conversation in person with my parents there and apologize. He’s never been great with words and I highkey suspect he has some sort of learning disability.
I guess here’s where I’m at. I really do not want to see him. To me, a sit down meeting feels like too much. Too quick. But at the same time, I also do want this. I want and deserve closure. Hell how many people get the chance to not only get their abuser to acknowledge what they did AND apologize. I’m just sort of torn up on what to do. I meet with my therapist next week to discuss but what are thoughts or comments.