I feel so bad because I really love him and I’m so proud of his journey because exploring one’s femininity is very brave and I’m glad to have been able to help facilitate that journey. I’m gay and he’s pandexual and the same age as me (21) and this is his first queer relo, he also didn’t have many queer friends and I’ve established him in my queer group. Weve been together 9 months and in the last 3 months he’s become very feminine and comfortable with that. He’s shaved his beard and doesn’t grow it anymore he is always wearing something feminine and he’s very into makeup now (extremely good at it). I would also say his personality feels more feminine as well as he’s a lot more kinda dainty and cutesy.
My whole social circle is filled with feminine and queer women with some feminine queer men too, and I guess going into this relationship I was really happy because I felt like I had that differentiation and distinct presence of masculinity. I guess there’s also maybe some father figure issues I’m subconsciously attempting to resolve in this relationship with a masculine presence. I get that it’s unhealthy, but I can’t help but feel proud of him and simultaneously upset for myself as I feel as though something is missing. I would say I’m more masc presenting than he is now and our dynamic has sort of changed too. I feel like I’m more of the masculine presence in tbe relationship.
This is my first proper relationship and I kind of already knew my type was masc, he is pan so his type is a lot broader than me but he has still said he wouldn’t put any expectations onto me to act a certain way so I can’t help but feel awful for feeling a little drawn back or upset. Idk what to do