My husband has been active on dating apps and night clubs whenever i visit back home (out of country) with our toddler
I F 33 recently found out that my husband M 36 has been active on dating apps while i am not in Ireland. He found his texts with a girl on WhatsApp, there were video calls and they talked for like 2-3 days and then she was blocked from his side (The video call was them just talking no PDA there that i know for a fact) .Then there was this girl he met at a club and they also talked for like 2-3 days. He’s been going to clubs and after party and doing ecstasy pills there… and he was horrible with us during that time period all the time bullying me for gaining weight and it was like he hated everything about me at that time…
So i caught the texts and videos of him partying and i confronted him and at first he denied, when i showed him the proof then he got angry and started blaming me that i dont takecare of myself after having a child i have gotten fat and he is young etc. Then came the realisation that she is going to leave now and became extremely remorseful and ashamed…
Long story short he’s been apologising since then along with completely changed behaviour and sense of accountability. The friends that were involved he has completely cut them off (know that because i am friends with wife of one of them). He took an oath not to get involved in anything like that again and suggested going to therapy himself…
The thing is i am still having a hard time believing that he love me even he claims to love me and that me and our toddler means the world to him but i dont know i can’t believe you can cheat on someone you love… we were happy a year ago genuinely in love.