u/Hungybungygingi

So I started working at the large company my brother works at and was put on a team with a girl who was really close to what the girl of my dreams is like. Soft spoken, sensitive, artsy, short hair, long skirts, etc. Problem was she was 8 years older then me, has a fiance, and even if those two reasons didn't exist, I still think she would not be attracted to me. To say that this affected me negatively is an understatement. For 6 months I have gone through the emotional ringer over this an even had a brief resurfacing of suicidal thoughts over it. I became obsessed and depressed. I have only just gotten over it and come to peace with it.

I started Anti-Depressents two months ago. I have been researching attachment styles, cognitive distortions and have been regularly talking to my therapist about my desire for a relationship. I have gotten some self help books which have really been a help. I have been starting to go to the gym at least once a week and really want to get in better shape. I have been hanging out with my friends more and I am DMing a DnD campaign with them. I am reading all this books I love and just focusing on the people in my life who love and appreciate me. With that said, I am so sexually frustrated.

I am an Autistic Hypersexual Demisexual (Socially awkward guy who is constantly horny but only wants to make love with somebody I am in a committed relationship with) and I feel like I am in purgatory. I can talk to girls, and have formed friendships with some of the girls at work, but I still haven't found the one. I know I need to just go out more and find somebody, but in the meantime girl I know I would not be compatible with are becoming objects of desire again.

This time I have formed a crush on another coworker but on a different team. She is work friends with one of the girls I am friendly with, and is really hot. With that said, there are clear reasons we would not work together. She is this tiny girl who is a body builder and way out of my league. She tan, hot, fit, hard working. I am a pale, nerdy, overweight, soft boy english major who still lives with his parents and I am more lazy then I would care to admit. By no means am I ugly, I have actually had luck in the past with some pretty girls, just none like this girl I am talking about.

And thats why I need a third party to snap me back to reality. I keep thinking about this new work crush, and work crushes have brought me nothing but pain in the past. I need some words of support so I can stop thinking about this new girl and just focus on myself. Love, when i find it, will be easy. I just have to be patient and strong. But some words of support would make me feel better. I know I am overthinking and maybe this post will be taken down for validation seeking but any advice linked to this scenario is appreciated.

So I started working at the large company my brother works at and was put on a team with a girl who was really close to what the girl of my dreams is like. Soft spoken, sensitive, artsy, short hair, long skirts, etc. Problem was she was 8 years older then me, has a fiance, and even if those two reasons didn't exist, I still think she would not be attracted to me. To say that this affected me negatively is an understatement. For 6 months I have gone through the emotional ringer over this an even had a brief resurfacing of suicidal thoughts over it. I became obsessed and depressed. I have only just gotten over it and come to peace with it.

I started Anti-Depressents two months ago. I have been researching attachment styles, cognitive distortions and have been regularly talking to my therapist about my desire for a relationship. I have gotten some self help books which have really been a help. I have been starting to go to the gym at least once a week and really want to get in better shape. I have been hanging out with my friends more and I am DMing a DnD campaign with them. I am reading all this books I love and just focusing on the people in my life who love and appreciate me. With that said, I am so sexually frustrated.

I am an Autistic Hypersexual Demisexual (Socially awkward guy who is constantly horny but only wants to make love with somebody I am in a committed relationship with) and I feel like I am in purgatory. I can talk to girls, and have formed friendships with some of the girls at work, but I still haven't found the one. I know I need to just go out more and find somebody, but in the meantime girl I know I would not be compatible with are becoming objects of desire again.

This time I have formed a crush on another coworker but on a different team. She is work friends with one of the girls I am friendly with, and is really hot. With that said, there are clear reasons we would not work together. She is this tiny girl who is a body builder and way out of my league. She tan, hot, fit, hard working. I am a pale, nerdy, overweight, soft boy english major who still lives with his parents and I am more lazy then I would care to admit. By no means am I ugly, I have actually had luck in the past with some pretty girls, just none like this girl I am talking about.

And thats why I need a third party to snap me back to reality. I keep thinking about this new work crush, and work crushes have brought me nothing but pain in the past. I need some words of support so I can stop thinking about this new girl and just focus on myself. Love, when i find it, will be easy. I just have to be patient and strong. But some words of support would make me feel better.