u/Hungryforknowledgex

The only dynamic I’ve been in was with a married couple and within a few days the husband of the woman I was seeing (prior to me having a relationship with her husband, with permission of course) was saying he loved me, was in love with me. **I want to make clear she encouraged the relationship and told us to go for it**.

Apparently he was very upfront with her about this as well and told him she supported his feelings and our relationship. I think her husband wanted me more than he was willing to admit..

If I was in a dynamic with my primary partner (husband, girlfriend, whomever..) and they were telling this new partner of their’s almost right away how intensely they felt I wouldn’t be ok with it. Apparently I was the only female up to that point that they allowed in their relationship. So if my husband’s head was easily turned that quickly I’d be wondering what was our marriage lacking that he got right away from this new relationship. Because I can tell you right now him and I had a bond. Which makes it hurt more.. but how much could he have really loved me to have had sex with me, them both blocking me because some buffoon told them to. I feel like my female soulmate blocked me.. he couldn’t be my soulmate. So instead of having an actual conversation with me they broke up with me by “blocking”. They want nothing to do with me so they have their little “spokesperson/tough friend” do all the talking. Same person who told them to block me on everything. Without warning. Felt like I lost two soulmates still..

The only dynamic I’ve been in was with a married couple and within a few days the husband of the woman I was seeing (prior to me having a relationship with her husband, with permission of course) was saying he loved me, was in love with me. **I want to make clear she encouraged the relationship and told us to go for it**.

Apparently he was very upfront with her about this as well and told him she supported his feelings and our relationship. I think her husband wanted me more than he was willing to admit..

If I was in a dynamic with my primary partner (husband, girlfriend, whomever..) and they were telling this new partner of their’s almost right away how intensely they felt I wouldn’t be ok with it. Apparently I was the only female up to that point that they allowed in their relationship. So if my husband’s head was easily turned that quickly I’d be wondering what was our marriage lacking that he got right away from this new relationship. Because I can tell you right now him and I had a bond. Which makes it hurt more.. but how much could he have really loved me to have had sex with me, them both blocking me because some buffoon told them to. I feel like my female soulmate blocked me.. he couldn’t be my soulmate. So instead of having an actual conversation with me they broke up with me by “blocking”. They want nothing to do with me so they have their little “spokesperson/tough friend” do all the talking. Same person who told them to block me on everything. Without warning. Felt like I lost two soulmates still..

My scattered thoughts that I needed to get out..

The only dynamic I’ve been in was with a married couple and within a few days the husband of the woman I was also seeing (prior to me having a relationship with her husband, with permission of course) was saying he loved me, was in love with me.

Apparently he was very upfront with her about this as well and told him she supported his feelings and our relationship.

If I was in a dynamic with my primary partner (husband, girlfriend, whomever..) and they were telling this new partner of their’s almost right away how intensely they felt I wouldn’t be ok with it. Apparently I was the only female up to that point that they allowed in their relationship. So if my husband’s head was easily turned that quickly I’d be wondering what was our marriage lacking that he got right away from this new relationship. Because I can tell you right now him and I had a bond. Which makes it hurt more.. but how much could he have really loved me to have had sex with me, them both blocking me because some buffoon told them to.

I think all in all we didn’t handle things properly and I really regret that but over time the heartache lessens. If there’s ever a time going forward that I don’t feel attractive inside and outside I can reflect and say “well this man thought I was appealing at some point.. and he was married to someone else”. if I’m making his head turn so easily…

All in all lessons learned/my thoughts:

☑️ I may not do well with a dynamic because I can’t be involved with someone and accept the fact that our relationship isn’t anything more than what we have going on. There’s no future there. So I’m not sure how you can be so madly in love if you’re not going anywhere with this person..

✅ I think my relationship with him ruined my relationship with her. Should have stayed away from her husband even though I wanted him at first sight. Apparently feeling was mutual.

❎ I suspect she changed her mind about the dynamic after all because she didn’t want to see anything being acknowledged about it. I think when he told her so quick how much he loved me she should have told her husband how she felt about the situation.

✔️ 💯 if he loved me he would have not blocked me because someone not important told him to. If he loved me he would have done everything in his power to be with me, even if it turned out to be in secret. If he loved me he would have tried talking to me considering it’s been 2 months. Feels relieving getting this all out.