u/Hungry_Heart_5534

TL;DR

Ok basically idk wtf to do Becasue this dude has become my best friend and I lowkey would be sad if I dropped him but things have gotten weird lately. Here is the story from the begging of our friendship: we’re both 18

Basically A guy reached out to me (from school) around 6 months ago wanting to be friends. At first he acted super religious and respectful, talking about lowering his gaze, modesty, etc. Later he admitted one of his original intentions was hoping he could eventually get lucky with me. (Btw he is Muslim goes to mosque weekly and prays a lot etc)

He sees me like a sister and def does not find me attractive at all (he has made it known). I also genuinely see him as a brother/best friend. We talk basically every day for an hour or more and outside of this issue he has been very caring and emotionally supportive. I’m also basically the only girl friend he has ever had, and he genuinely does not know how to act around other girls (no relationships no talking stages etc).

But over time the sexual comments have escalated badly. He constantly talks about being horny, says stuff like “I’m hard rn,” saying he almost sent explicit pics once, asks me to send topless pics of my friends, talks sexually about random girls (can’t leave his house without saying freaky ass shit about girls walking on the street), etc. I shut it down and respond with stuff like “bro wtf” or change the subject, so I’m not encouraging it but I also have not flare out told him to stop Becasue I’m worried he won’t want to be my friend anymore. He says I’m the only person he can tell this type of stuff to, but I’m also a female myself and it’s ruining my perception of all. This man is lowkey the biggest gooner I know but he doesn’t goon??? Becasue he is Muslim?? Is genuinely does not make sense.

He simultaneously judges my FWB situation and makes me feel guilty about it, doesn’t support it at all. With that, he almost asks me everyday to find him a FWB so I’m just like wtf. I can’t talk to him about my friends without him wanting to get put on.

The biggest reason I haven’t seriously confronted him is because I’m honestly scared that if I fully tell him to stop, he won’t want to be my friend anymore, and I’ve gotten really attached to him emotionally as my best friend.

WTF IS UR TAKE ON THIS SITUATION??? What do I do?? Also if there needs to be any clarification lmk.

Ok basically idk wtf to do Becasue this dude has become my best friend and I lowkey would be sad if I dropped him but things have gotten weird lately. Here is the story from the begging of our friendship: we’re both 18

Basically A guy reached out to me (from school) around 6 months ago wanting to be friends. At first he acted super religious and respectful, talking about lowering his gaze, modesty, etc. Later he admitted one of his original intentions was hoping he could eventually get lucky with me. (Btw he is Muslim goes to mosque weekly and prays a lot etc)

He sees me like a sister and def does not find me attractive at all (he has made it known). I also genuinely see him as a brother/best friend. We talk basically every day for an hour or more and outside of this issue he has been very caring and emotionally supportive. I’m also basically the only girl friend he has ever had, and he genuinely does not know how to act around other girls (no relationships no talking stages etc).

But over time the sexual comments have escalated badly. He constantly talks about being horny, says stuff like “I’m hard rn,” saying he almost sent explicit pics once, asks me to send topless pics of my friends, talks sexually about random girls (can’t leave his house without saying freaky ass shit about girls walking on the street), etc. I shut it down and respond with stuff like “bro wtf” or change the subject, so I’m not encouraging it but I also have not flare out told him to stop Becasue I’m worried he won’t want to be my friend anymore. He says I’m the only person he can tell this type of stuff to, but I’m also a female myself and it’s ruining my perception of all. This man is lowkey the biggest gooner I know but he doesn’t goon??? Becasue he is Muslim?? Is genuinely does not make sense.

He simultaneously judges my FWB situation and makes me feel guilty about it, doesn’t support it at all. With that, he almost asks me everyday to find him a FWB so I’m just like wtf. I can’t talk to him about my friends without him wanting to get put on.

The biggest reason I haven’t seriously confronted him is because I’m honestly scared that if I fully tell him to stop, he won’t want to be my friend anymore, and I’ve gotten really attached to him emotionally as my best friend.

WTF IS UR TAKE ON THIS SITUATION??? What do I do?? Also if there needs to be any clarification lmk.