I’m 21F and my ex is 24M. We were together for about a year and four months and we just broke up.
The main problem was his behavior online. He would constantly look up porn and save videos of other women, and I kept catching him. Every time it happened he would lie or try to downplay it, then promise he would change or get help, but nothing ever actually changed.
I gave him a lot of chances because I really love him. He’s my first everything and I honestly saw a future with him, so this hurts a lot.
Over time it started affecting me really badly. My self esteem dropped, my mental health got worse, and I don’t feel like myself anymore. I shouldn’t feel like that in a relationship.
He’s been dealing with this since before me, so I know it’s something deeper, but at the same time I can’t keep putting myself through this. I don’t want to be with someone who lies to me and makes me feel like I’m not enough.
I feel like I’m done because I need to choose myself, even though it hurts. I do still love for my true doom and it’s like even if you were to put in all the work and everything after we broke up I feel like I would still get anxious or anything like that. You know it’s like he says he loves me on his first love and he wants to marry me, but it’s like it hurts.
Do people actually change from this? And even if they do, is it worth going back after so many broken promises