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We’ve been together for 6 years. Around the 3-year mark, she said she wasn’t sure if she wanted kids, and I gave her an ultimatum because it’s a dealbreaker for me. Since then, she’s never really expressed that she wants kids. In fact, she’s said she’d be fine without them. She’s mentioned not wanting to raise a child in this world, that she enjoys traveling, and she’s also brought up concerns about losing her body or gaining weight.

Over the past few months, I’ve been bringing up trying for a baby this fall, but she’s been very back and forth. She’s said she’d be willing to have one, but I don’t want to pressure her into something she doesn’t truly want. She’s very introverted and emotionally closed off, so it’s hard to understand how she really feels since she doesn’t show much emotion.

It’s gotten to the point where I’m wondering if I’m the problem. My friends all think I’d make a good dad. I do have ADHD, which can affect the relationship at times, but I’m not sure how much that plays into this.

I’m thinking about sitting her down this weekend and asking her directly why she doesn’t seem excited and whether she actually wants to have a child.