u/Horror_Law_7499

Hi all. Pretty new here.
A little back story- I have an 11yo boy with my ex who is in prison & will be there until my son is 22. He has been there since my son was 3. But even when he was out, his mom was the main one helping me from his side with our son because he lived a "street life". My family lives out of state so them helping has always obviously been an issue.

I now legally coparent with her. She won grand parenting rights in 2020 (which I had no idea my state allows this until she took me to court for it). From what the magistrate said, because my son had a solid relationship for so long & his dad is gone, they felt it was in his best interest to make sure she stays in his life. However, she only gets him every other weekend. But things are changing now that he's getting older.

She has taken him to see his dad in prison since she won some of the rights. Our agreement says nothing about taking him or not. I'm having issues with this because now that he's getting older, his dad is starting to tell him things at visits regarding our previous unhealthy relationship from years ago with a lot of it being ass backwards. Now my son has started to shove some of these things in my face & seems to be turning against me in some ways.

I have 2 other children with my now husband & now that my son is realizing he can get away with a lot more at his grandmas & feel included in adult things, he's demanding he moves with her full time. I do not want this because I don't think full time with her type of "parenting" is good for him & I want him with his siblings! Now we are all arguing about this situation & his grandma is showing him texts from mine & hers arguments. He now refuses to come home & I have threatened to call the police but I also don't want to give my son more reason to go against me..

I'm really just curious if anyone here has had to coparent with a grandparent &/or deal with a situation like this? I guess my question is what would the people of Reddit do in this situation? I know it's more of a different dynamic than most.

I'm very open to any & all advice, harsh or not lol. Thank you all!

Hi all. Pretty new here.
A little back story- I have an 11yo boy with my ex who is in prison & will be there until my son is 22. He has been there since my son was 3. But even when he was out, his mom was the main one helping me from his side with our son because he lived a "street life". My family lives out of state so them helping has always obviously been an issue.

I now legally coparent with her. She won grand parenting rights in 2020 (which I had no idea my state allows this until she took me to court for it). From what the magistrate said, because my son had a solid relationship for so long & his dad is gone, they felt it was in his best interest to make sure she stays in his life. However, she only gets him every other weekend. But things are changing now that he's getting older.

She has taken him to see his dad in prison since she won some of the rights. Our agreement says nothing about taking him or not. I'm having issues with this because now that he's getting older, his dad is starting to tell him things at visits regarding our previous unhealthy relationship from years ago with a lot of it being ass backwards. Now my son has started to shove some of these things in my face & seems to be turning against me in some ways.

I have 2 other children with my now husband & now that my son is realizing he can get away with a lot more at his grandmas & feel included in adult things, he's demanding he moves with her full time. I do not want this because I don't think full time with her type of "parenting" is good for him & I want him with his siblings! Now we are all arguing about this situation & his grandma is showing him texts from mine & hers arguments. He now refuses to come home & I have threatened to call the police but I also don't want to give my son more reason to go against me..

I'm really just curious if anyone here has had to coparent with a grandparent &/or deal with a situation like this? I guess my question is what would the people of Reddit do in this situation? I know it's more of a different dynamic than most.

I'm very open to any & all advice, harsh or not lol. Thank you all!