u/Hope1995x

The good thing about my experience is that it toughens me up to not to expect much or to grow attached to people too early.

This is to guard my heart and emotions.

I've chatted and video-called pretty women multiple times. Even talking within the app for several days and to move it to a platform that accepts video-calls.

They'll ask for small favors and the like. Nope, that's when all attraction gets lost.

Or they'll rush things and try to meet you super early especially if theyre overseas. It already takes months to get a visa. So that's a red flag.

I get it if video calls were done weekly and that the video calls were at least 10 or 15 minutes. But they seem to rush into getting the scam.

Edit: Romance scams are ruining international dating. Not many young(er) men have these dreams/romantic fantasies and it really does ruin my hope of seeking that dream just to try my luck.

I have a good career established but no dating experience.

I believe I'm on the spectrum but I dont want to come off as predatory.

I see it now, signing up for college classes to meet women is seen as weird because the "social contract" is that people are going there for education and career advancement.

I know its a great place on paper to meet women, but I'm viewed as a creep. I'm not looking for women straight out of high school though.

But, I did miss out and I am missing out so honestly there is despair and I'm trying to learn coping skills to handle that despair.

Edit: Today, I went out on a self-date. Self-dates are common and the people Im talking too, I dont feel the "social contract" makes it acceptable to approach them beyond small-talk. So I already got the "going out there and trying new things" part down. It just doesnt seem to work.

Edit 3: About 300 swipes on tinder today just doomswiping. Only got one match.

I dont look my age so that is a benfiet for me.

I also dont have any experience, but I do have a career. I just want to meet women about 22-28 years old.

Young enough but not older than me.

This is the best shot I can give. Perhaps I can attend the social rvents at the community College. Nowhere else are they doing things socially in town. Bars and clubs are a no for me.

Any advice to get a date with a younger woman while you have no experience but money to spend and yet protect at the same time?

Florida is known to have plenty of pine forest so fires are common, also there is a drought.

I live in a trailer and I can smell the smoke outside. There are no evacuations ordered near my area but I wanted to share this information that the Gainesville, Live Oak, Lake City and Jacksonville areas should be on the watch.

I am forced to face the reality that to find a date I must participate in a system that I do not enjoy.

I have to put a mask on and pretend I like it. But once I secure a girlfriend, I plan to return to a life of solitude.

I am finding it extremely difficult to particpate in these social circles long enough just to find a date.

Edit: How do other neurodivergent people force themselves to do the work?