u/Heythere160

Exactly what it says in the title. I'm pretty sure I have 2a/2b fine wavy hair. It's also low-porosity as far as I can tell. I usally struggle with frizz, root volume, split-ends and definition. My hair isn't very dense either. My hair is also quite dry. With all of these on mind, which hair mousse do you think would work better for me - Taft 3 or Taft 5? I tried to find out the difference between both the products but there was no information :(

For additional reference, I am going to pair it with the Moxie curl cream. I also use the Loreal Professionel anti-frizz hair mask. I don't heat-style or diffuse my hair.

Routine: I usually oil and braid my hair three hours before the wash. I shampoo twice, apply hair mask and scrunch it in. I wash it off after 15 or so minutes. I then put in leave-in conditioner and curl cream in my damp hair. I rake it through and then scrunch it in. I wanna remove the conditioner and use mousse instead.

Thank you

Gonna keep it as brief as possible but it'll be pretty long. I am in college and I live on campus. I became friends with someone through a friend, got closer to her over a trip in the summer. Her best friend went for a sem abroad the sem after and I had experienced a break-up before the summer. Dude was avoidant and possibly a narcissist, left me with crippling issues.

Since I was somewhat deprived of close friends and she kinda fully was, we automatically spent more time together. She would call me her best friend on campus, go above and beyond for me and lean on me for support. I always felt like she felt closer to me than I did to her. This is kinda normal for me because I take time to open up but it still felt a lil weird to me.

We would hang out an insane amount, talk about everything and anything. It genuinely felt like we were dating sometimes and our friends would say that often. All of a sudden, I think it hit me that I was acting out-of-character. I had started drinking because of her and the new friends that we made, and I think the high that I had gotten from her validation wore off.

The break-up actually hit me now. My issues came back. I started isolating myself somewhat, from everyone. It felt like she distanced herself from me too. We went from knowing everything about each other to not seeing each other at all in a day sometimes. While I was isolating, I felt closer to her now because in my opinion, the more time you spend together, the closer you feel.

She, on the other hand, got way way close to one of her old close friends. She started spending the entire day with her, the way she used to with me. This was around the time of end-sems. I didn't have time to think about it. It was winter break after and then I went home.

We come back from vacation, her best friend is back. Now, we wouldn't see each other for half a month at times. I was convinced something was off. We had a conversation and she told me that she didn't know that I felt like I was abandoned and that I felt like something was off because she doesn't need to meet her friends every day to feel close to them.

Yet, with her other closer friends, I would see her hanging out with them every day and she told me that it was because they would initiate. This, I do believe her about but still. I feel really awful because I felt like I let my other friendships slide and be affected by how much I valued hers more and by her opinions, when she took the first chance to abandon our friendship and get to another one.

Now, I'm stuck with more abandonment issues than before. The things I had worked so hard on improving have kinda been undone by her and my ex. My friendship with her was supposed to amplify my closeness to her and our friend who was abroad at the moment but now it feels like I am out of the loop.

I feel like I'm going insane. I will say though that she was really nice and patient throughout, even when I would spiral about my break-up and everything that followed. I panicked far too much and she was always there. I just wish she would have told me instead of just leaving, if I had been wearing her down. I was really not okay back then but yeah, she acts like everything is normal now but I just can't get over this.

Can someone please tell me what happened here because I'm so baffled when I think about it? Consequently, if someone has advice about how to retain your individuality and not lose yourself in the validation and niceness of a friendship, that would be great. It's just that she's always so well-liked despite what she put me through and I seem like the overly attached and unfun person, which hits me like a truck because I've always felt unlikable.

Thank you 😭

Gonna keep it as brief as possible but it'll be pretty long. I am in college and I live on campus. I became friends with someone through a friend, got closer to her over a trip in the summer. Her best friend went for a sem abroad the sem after and I had experienced a break-up before the summer. Dude was avoidant and possibly a narcissist, left me with crippling issues.

Since I was somewhat deprived of close friends and she kinda fully was, we automatically spent more time together. She would call me her best friend on campus, go above and beyond for me and lean on me for support. I always felt like she felt closer to me than I did to her. This is kinda normal for me because I take time to open up but it still felt a lil weird to me.

We would hang out an insane amount, talk about everything and anything. It genuinely felt like we were dating sometimes and our friends would say that often. All of a sudden, I think it hit me that I was acting out-of-character. I had started drinking because of her and the new friends that we made, and I think the high that I had gotten from her validation wore off.

The break-up actually hit me now. My issues came back. I started isolating myself somewhat, from everyone. It felt like she distanced herself from me too. We went from knowing everything about each other to not seeing each other at all in a day sometimes. While I was isolating, I felt closer to her now because in my opinion, the more time you spend together, the closer you feel.

She, on the other hand, got way way close to one of her old close friends. She started spending the entire day with her, the way she used to with me. This was around the time of end-sems. I didn't have time to think about it. It was winter break after and then I went home.

We come back from vacation, her best friend is back. Now, we wouldn't see each other for half a month at times. I was convinced something was off. We had a conversation and she told me that she didn't know that I felt like I was abandoned and that I felt like something was off because she doesn't need to meet her friends every day to feel close to them.

Yet, with her other closer friends, I would see her hanging out with them every day and she told me that it was because they would initiate. This, I do believe her about but still. I feel really awful because I felt like I let my other friendships slide and be affected by how much I valued hers more and by her opinions, when she took the first chance to abandon our friendship and get to another one.

Now, I'm stuck with more abandonment issues than before. The things I had worked so hard on improving have kinda been undone by her and my ex. My friendship with her was supposed to amplify my closeness to her and our friend who was abroad at the moment but now it feels like I am out of the loop.

I feel like I'm going insane. I will say though that she was really nice and patient throughout, even when I would spiral about my break-up and everything that followed. I panicked far too much and she was always there. I just wish she would have told me instead of just leaving, if I had been wearing her down. I was really not okay back then but yeah, she acts like everything is normal now but I just can't get over this.

Can someone please tell me what happened here because I'm so baffled when I think about it? Consequently, if someone has advice about how to retain your individuality and not lose yourself in the validation and niceness of a friendship, that would be great. It's just that she's always so well-liked despite what she put me through and I seem like the overly attached and unfun person, which hits me like a truck because I've always felt unlikable.

Thank you 😭