u/Helpful-Plankton751

I came across this topic in a facebook moms group recently and I am confused.

In the group, a few ladies were discussing how free bleeding has significantly reduced their flow. Is this true? I primarly use tampons during the day and then use pads at night. What is the difference between free bleeding and using pads? lol it's the same concept, no? The only difference with the pads would be you have protection? So how does free bleeding reduce your flow?

My mother was an "okay" mom. She kept food in our bellies and a roof over our head, but that was about it. She was emotionally abusive, an alcoholic, all about herself and never about us, and essentially used us to make it look like she was the perfect mom in others eyes, but behind closed doors a whole other world was being lived.

I went no contact with her for a long time, but rekindled the relationship when I was pregnant with my daughter. She made a lot of changes while I was no contact with her, getting sober was one of the biggest. Our relationship is still strained at times, but her relationship with my daughter in particular is great. My daughter adores her.

That being said, my mom promises my daughter stuff and then the plans she promises always fall through because of some excuse, and it's driving me insane. I can handle her hurting me and letting me down, I got used to it a long time ago, but now she's hurting my daughter and it's infuriating.

My daughter recently started soccer. I sent all grandparents, including my mom, a copy of the schedule and said here is her schedule if you decide you want to attend a game.

This week, my mom invited herself to our house to spend the night and wants to go to both her practice tonight and game tomorrow. Cool, no problem, my daughter was and has been so excited for days. She cleaned her room for my mom last night, made her bed up with a bunch of stuffies, got a bunch of girls night stuff set out, all the things in preparation for a sleepover with her grandma.

A few minutes ago, my mom called while I was in a meeting at work. I couldn't answer, but I already knew she was calling to change plans. I called her back and she was obviously in a bad mood, explaining she's had a bad day at work and didn't think she was going to be able to make practice and would be arriving to our house late at night. I got frustrated and told her I would just tell my daughter she couldn't make it and that she needed to spend the night another weekend if she was going to be coming super late.

She then goes on to bitch about all of her coworkers and offering all of these excuses as to why her day has been so bad. I really don't care, and told her I'm sorry, but that my daughter was going to be upset that her plans were broken again and that is what I was most concerned about, not some lady she works with that I don't even know.

She then flips out of nowhere and says "Well I think I can make it to practice if I can get back to work, I'm busy and this call is taking up a lot of my time. In order to get there though I'll need the address, so send that too me". I explained I had been busy too at work, but that I would make sure to send it. Even though I've already sent it twice and she's supposedly deleted the texts. Her response was to snap back "well were you busy last night when I asked you to send it?!" Like yes, I have 3 kids and both parents in the house work a full time job, so I'm busy ALL the time.

She flipped into another character after that and "sweetly" apolgized for frustrating me, said she'd be there tonight, then ended the call.

I am on the fence if she's actually even coming, there are still hours for her to change plans again and at this point I don't want her to come. She has ruined my day and I don't want to be around her, but if I don't put up with her childish behavior, I'm the one letting my daughter down. When is enough, enough? AIO? I'm so over it and have no idea what to do.