AIO that my bf’s friend made a weird comment about how I used to dress back in high school?
Hi, me (24F) and my boyfriend (24M) have been together for about a year and five months now. My boyfriend recently became cool again with one of his best friends after a weird situation happened between them (won’t get into that).
Last night, I met up with an old friend of mine, and we decided to hang out with my boyfriend and his friend. We were sitting in my boyfriend’s friend’s car talking about throwbacks and funny memories from high school. My friend was showing me old videos she had of me on her phone, and one of the videos was of me wearing one of my favorite outfits at the time.
Me and my friend laughed about it in the back seat, and I said out loud, “Okay honestly, I did kind of put that shit on,” meaning the outfit I was wearing looked good.
Out of nowhere, my boyfriend’s friend said, “Jas, you did NOT have that shit on.”
So I responded, “Huh? You don’t even know what we were referring to.”
He said, “If I’m guessing right, you’re talking about your clothes you used to wear back in high school. If not, my bad.”
Trying to lighten the mood, I said, “No, you were right. We were talking about my clothes.”
Then he shook his head and said, “Yeahhh, you did not put that shit on at all,” basically implying that the way I dressed back then wasn’t good.
For some reason, it really bothered me. I felt embarrassed, awkward, and honestly kind of hurt. My whole mood changed after that. Yes, maybe I didn’t dress the best back then, but we were kids, and I wasn’t trying to impress anybody. I wore what I liked and felt comfortable in. I wore jeans, shirts, regular shoes, sometimes cute skirts, and my hair was always done, etc.
I also felt like my boyfriend could’ve said more. I don’t know. Part of me wonders if it bothered me more because my boyfriend was there and I felt embarrassed in front of him.
After that comment, about 20 minutes went by, and my boyfriend, his friend, and my friend were talking about some guy they remembered from back then. I said something during the conversation, and his friend immediately stopped talking, looked at me, made eye contact with my boyfriend, laughed, and shook his head. The whole thing just felt weird to me.
Am I overreacting? Or should I just take it as a joke and stop being sensitive? The whole situation really bothered me, and honestly, it still is.