u/Heavy_Appointment399

I ended a 7 year marriage because I do not feel like he cared or supported me with my life. He worked out of town & only saw each other on weekends. I would constantly tell him that I was sad & lonely but he would just brush it off. I asked him to move me closer to family & friends & he told me to figure it out but I’m feel like I needed more support. To top it all off we were very mean to one another.

One thing that I can admit is that the good times with him were the best. Our personalities were both super fun & we just vibed so well together when we were out & about on dates, or with family & friends.

It’s been 2 & a half years since I left including 7 months since the official divorce. We were on and off our first year & I was a mess. The following year we were still separated but no longer communicated. I felt great, rarely thought about him, & felt like my life was falling into place.

Towards the end of the year I met the most amazing, kindest, hard working man. He understands me, makes lots of money so I get to stay home, helps me when I’m sad/ over think, & seems like he wants to give me the world. We have been together for about 1 year now. (5 months of me being separated 7 months of me being divorced.) I feel more loved than ever felt with my ex husband. It sucks but although I do love him, he loves me more than I will ever love him.

About 2 weeks ago I found out that my ex has a 3 month old , moved to a home close to the area that I wanted to live in & got a local job so that he doesn’t have to travel anymore. This completely shattered me. I’ve been crying & in bed not wanting to do anything. I shouldn’t have but I stalked her & compare myself as to why he loves her more. She’s younger, is an engineer, & is a cute girl.

I didn’t want to be with him in the first place but now I’m feeling so much regret. How do I get past this? In a sense I find no purpose in living anymore & wish I could just disappear. I know that time heals all wounds but in this case I don’t see how I can ever heal! Please please give me some advice!

I ended a 7 year marriage because I do not feel like he cared or supported me with my life. He worked out of town & only saw each other on weekends. I would constantly tell him that I was sad & lonely but he would just brush it off. I asked him to move me closer to family & friends & he told me to figure it out but I’m feel like I needed more support. To top it all off we were very mean to one another.

One thing that I can admit is that the good times with him were the best. Our personalities were both super fun & we just vibed so well together when we were out & about on dates, or with family & friends.

It’s been 2 & a half years since I left including 7 months since the official divorce. We were on and off our first year & I was a mess. The following year we were still separated but no longer communicated. I felt great, rarely thought about him, & felt like my life was falling into place.

Towards the end of the year I met the most amazing, kindest, hard working man. He understands me, makes lots of money so I get to stay home, helps me when I’m sad/ over think, & seems like he wants to give me the world. We have been together for about 1 year now. (5 months of me being separated 7 months of me being divorced.) I feel more loved than ever felt with my ex husband. It sucks but although I do love him, he loves me more than I will ever love him.

About 2 weeks ago I found out that my ex has a 3 month old , moved to a home close to the area that I wanted to live in & got a local job so that he doesn’t have to travel anymore. This completely shattered me. I’ve been crying & in bed not wanting to do anything. I shouldn’t have but I stalked her & compare myself as to why he loves her more. She’s younger, is an engineer, & is a cute girl.

I didn’t want to be with him in the first place but now I’m feeling so much regret. How do I get past this? In a sense I find no purpose in living anymore & wish I could just disappear. I know that time heals all wounds but in this case I don’t see how I can ever heal! Please please give me some advice!

Am I feeling regret?

My name is Jane (34F) & I divorced my husband John (35M) this past October although we were separated for the 2 years before divorce. Married for a total of 7years. We had a connection like no other so unexplainable and everyone around us could see it. We were so much fun together. We loved each other so much I could truly feel his love & I hope that he was able to feel mine.
The down side, we were so mean to one another. Our fights would be out of control we would yell & accuse each other of horrible things.

He eventually got a job out of town and we would only see each other on the weekends. We lived in a small town outside of Atlanta. All of our friends and family lived about 1 hour and a half away. I became depressed, told him multiple times I wasn’t happy, and begged him to sell & buy a house closer to loved ones. He would make comments like “if you’re not happy gtfo then, or if you want to sell the house so bad then figure it out & find a realtor. He was very much of a 50/50 kind of guy, separate bank accounts, split bills, & spilt house work.

On a weekend when he was home from work I decided to go through his phone and noticed that he had created an only fans account & was paying for explicit content from girls. He blamed me and stated that I never wanted to send him explicit pictures & videos so what was he suppose to do?
That was true, I was exhausted from work, would come home to walk the dog & by that time it was 9pm and I was ready for bed. I was also a very jealous crazy wife 😭

I felt devastated! You can say that everything got worse from there, we would always accuse each other of cheating & just had so many issues.
One day, I decided that it was time to end the relationship. It was never going to be the same. I got a job in Atlanta and moved in with my sister.

He begged me to come back but i felt as if it was too late & I told him to move on. We were on and off for the first year of being separated & the second one we both started dating different people. The first year I was a mess, I got extremely skinny & everyone worried for me. While we were separated the second year, I was happy, felt at peace, & thought I was finally able to move on.

I finally filed for divorce & it was official in October. I texted him to send him paper work & he asked if he could see me one more time. I declined because I wanted to respect our new partners and I felt like it would make everything worse.

Fast forward 8months and I found out that he had a baby with her. She was pregnant before our divorce. This news is driving me crazy. I can’t stop thinking about if I made the wrong choice. I can’t stop crying or thinking that I should have tried harder in the relationship and that it was all my fault. It could have been our baby. I loved him t& I know he loved me. Is this regret that I’m feeing?

I do want to mention that I love my boyfriend & that I do feel that he loves me more than anyone I’ve ever been with. He is the nicest man I’ve ever met. He takes care of me financially, emotionally, mentally. This is another reason why I don’t understand why I am feeling this way. I’ll take any advice.

My name is Jane (34F) & I divorced my husband John (35M) this past October although we were separated for the 2 years before divorce. Married for a total of 7years. We had a connection like no other so unexplainable and everyone around us could see it. We were so much fun together. We loved each other so much I could truly feel his love & I hope that he was able to feel mine.
The down side, we were so mean to one another. Our fights would be out of control we would yell & accuse each other of horrible things.

He eventually got a job out of town and we would only see each other on the weekends. We lived in a small town out side of Atlanta. All of our friends and family lived about 1 hour and a half away. I became depressed, told him multiple times I wasn’t happy, and begged him to sell & buy a house closer to loved ones. He would make comments like “if you’re not happy gtfo then, or if you want to sell the house so bad then figure it out & find a realtor. He was very much of a 50/50 kind of guy, separate bank accounts, split bills, & spilt house work.

On a weekend when he was home from work I decided to go through his phone and noticed that he had created an only fans account. He blamed me and stated that I never wanted to send him explicit pictures & videos so what was I suppose to do?
That was true, I was exhausted from work, would come home to walk the dog & by that time it was 9pm and I was ready for bed. I was also a very jealous, crazy wife 😭.

I felt devastated! You can say that everything got worse from there, we would always accuse each other of cheating & just had so many issues.
One day, I decided that it was time to end the relationship. It was never going to be the same. I got a job in Atlanta and moved in with my sister.

He begged me to come back but i felt as if it was too late & I told him to move on. We were on and off for the first year of being separated & the second one we both started dating different people. The first year I was a mess, I got extremely skinny & everyone worried for me. While we were separated the second year, I was happy, felt at peace, & thought I was finally able to move on.

I finally filed for divorce & it was official in October. I texted him to send him paper work & he asked if he could see me one more time. I declined because I wanted to respect our new partners and I felt like it would make everything worse.

Fast forward 8months and I found out that he had a baby with her. She was pregnant before our divorce. This news is driving me crazy. I can’t stop thinking about if I made the wrong choice. I can’t stop crying or thinking that I should have tried harder in the relationship and that it was all my fault. It could have been our baby. I loved him t& I know he loved me. Is this regret that I’m feeing?

I do want to mention that I love my boyfriend & that I do feel that he loves me more than anyone I’ve ever been with. He is the nicest man I’ve ever met. He takes care of me financially, emotionally, mentally. This is another reason why I don’t understand why I am feeling this way. I’ll take any advice.