I feel emotionally drained by my parents even though I’m doing well in life
I’m 19 and finishing high school this year. I study very well, passed my exams, and I have a realistic chance of getting into one of the best universities in my country for IT. I also already have a summer job lined up.
Despite that, my relationship with my parents is honestly terrible. We even went to a psychologist together a few months ago, but after a short improvement everything went back to constant criticism, yelling, guilt tripping, and emotional pressure.
One of the biggest issues for them is my girlfriend. Every time I visited her (usually once a week), my parents acted like I was destroying my future because I wasn’t studying 24/7. Whenever I came back home, there would be another argument about how I supposedly won’t achieve anything in life.
During one argument I asked my mom if she was proud of me at all, and she answered: “There’s nothing to be proud of.” My father also regularly yells at me and insults me during conflicts.
Recently I told my dad that respect should go both ways because I don’t feel respected either. He got extremely angry after that.
At this point I feel emotionally exhausted and I’ve started distancing myself mentally from their words just to survive living at home until I move out next year.
Does this sound emotionally abusive/unhealthy to you? And how do you stop taking your parents’ words personally when you still live with them? Do you have maybe some advices for me?