u/Haunting-Ad4540

My boyfriend 21M and I 21F have been together for almost 3 years. He truly is a very sweet and caring boyfriend but he recently told me that he has a gambling problem. These past few weeks he has been stressed out about money. So I have been helping out with things a lot more which I didn’t mind doing because I thought he was just trying to save money. He calls me today and says that he has a problem and has been gambling on his phone and that’s where it all added up. The past few weeks we have been talking about how much money he had in his account because we are trying to save up to buy a house together and when he would tell me how much it was and it was not going up and I was confused. He makes pretty good money and we only go out to eat 1 time a week so I didn’t know here this money he was making was going until he called and told me about his gambling today. He would play casino games on his phone once in awhile so I knew that it could’ve been a problem so this past week I asked him if he was gambling on his phone and he lied straight to my face and said no (which was obviously a lie because he told me today he was). When I asked him today how much he has gambled these past few weeks on his phone he said a couple grand. I wasn’t angry just more hurt and upset because one he lied to me and two for our 3 year anniversary that’s coming up I wanted to go to Tennessee for a long weekend but he kept saying he didn’t have the money. I told him that I have enough air b&b credits to pay for the whole air b&b and obviously help out with food, activities, gas, etc. Just knowing he lost that much in the past few weeks on gambling makes me upset. When I would bring up Tennessee he would just shut it down saying “I don’t have the money” but now I know why. I just don’t know what to do. I think about our future and how if this doesn’t get under control how it could affect both of our lives. He is truly so kind and caring and my best friend but I can’t stop thinking about the future and how if he doesn’t get this under control what it will do to our lives.

My boyfriend 21M and I 21F have been together for almost 3 years. He truly is a very sweet and caring boyfriend but he recently told me that he has a gambling problem. These past few weeks he has been stressed out about money. So I have been helping out with things a lot more which I didn’t mind doing because I thought he was just trying to save money. He calls me today and says that he has a problem and has been gambling on his phone and that’s where it all added up. The past few weeks we have been talking about how much money he had in his account because we are trying to save up to buy a house together and when he would tell me how much it was and it was not going up and I was confused. He makes pretty good money and we only go out to eat 1 time a week so I didn’t know here this money he was making was going until he called and told me about his gambling today. He would play casino games on his phone once in awhile so I knew that it could’ve been a problem so this past week I asked him if he was gambling on his phone and he lied straight to my face and said no (which was obviously a lie because he told me today he was). When I asked him today how much he has gambled these past few weeks on his phone he said a couple grand. I wasn’t angry just more hurt and upset because one he lied to me and two for our 3 year anniversary that’s coming up I wanted to go to Tennessee for a long weekend but he kept saying he didn’t have the money. I told him that I have enough air b&b credits to pay for the whole air b&b and obviously help out with food, activities, gas, etc. Just knowing he lost that much in the past few weeks on gambling makes me upset. When I would bring up Tennessee he would just shut it down saying “I don’t have the money” but now I know why. I just don’t know what to do. I think about our future and how if this doesn’t get under control how it could affect both of our lives. He is truly so kind and caring and my best friend but I can’t stop thinking about the future and how if he doesn’t get this under control what it will do to our lives.