u/GymBabyBunny

I obviously didn't want the divorce and im still grieving. we had a fight 3 weeks ago and in that time being, he made up his mind about divorce. He filed yesterday. He tells me that he will continue to help me financially with apartment, car, and anything else.

I told him that I'm not ready for things to move that fast. I didn't say this but, I still haven't accepted it. I wish I was moving as fast as him but, I still cant rn. Living with him is hell.

I have all this love and nowhere to put it. He never get me an ultimatum. We separated with the intent to get back together for a few days and he was done.

I hate that my love and loyalty wasn't enough. It was for the wrong person. We could've fixed the problems but, he didn't want to. Now, I have to pretend at work like im still happily married.

Husband told me he wanted a divorce 3ish weeks ago. He filed the paperwork this afternoon. It's been destroying me everyday. I can't move out until around May. I don't have anywhere else to go until then. Knowing that he is doing this is breaking me but, I can't stop it. I cannot force someone to stay with me. How do I make the time being better? I don't have insurance and I spent the last bit of my spending money on a marriage counseling session that ended horribly.

I started a new job and the health insurance is wonky so, paying out of pocket for more therapy is a no go. I've asked him to not talk to me unless it pertains to the home. I stopped wearing the jewelry he gave me, deleted our photos, and threw away other stuff.

Husband and I had a big fight a few weeks ago. We 'recovered' from the fight and landed on marriage counseling. We went to 2 sessions last year but didn't continue because he didn't want what the therapist had to say about him. He had no problem when she said something about me..

He kept calling the va because its free but, they were never calling him back. This caused a lot of tension to build and eventually explode between us. Husband became distant and then told me he wanted a divorce. This broke me. I told him that I did not want a divorce but, I can't keep the man with me.

He went from not being in a rush to rushing the fuck out of me a week later. Only talking about divorce when he seems me, leaving the divorce paperwork open on my computer, and just being mean anytime I'm vulnerable with him. He told me that he was annoyed last time I tried opening up. He's just been so fucking mean this week.

He kept his end of the bargain and we finally had our marriage counseling session. She called us both out for our behaviour. Anytime she asked if we were in therapy to save the marriage or to get a divorce, I said that we are in two different places. After the session, he broke down and said he didn't realize he's been mean to me the last week. He then proceeded to blame all of the problems of our marriage onto me even though he did admit to faults during the session.

I said that I do not want a divorce but he does. We are just there to understand where things went wrong. However, he couldn't give a straight answer after repeatedly being asked. I'm tired of him dragging this shit out. He went from not being in a rush one week to getting frustrated that I am not ready to file and move out the next.. All within the span of 2 weeks. I kept asking him what is the rush?

He's not cheating on me. I think he doesn't want to get a divorce but thinks that he should. So, he's trying to push me away to make it easier. He's soooo uncomfortable with me. He also doesn't want to take the risk of repeated future problems. I don't want a partner who behaves like this or can't handle rough patches in a relationship. After the shock and grief has worn off, idk what I'm really fighting for. I know that his man doesn't want to be with him and he's just been treating me like shit to make me want to live him.

The whole thing is exhausting, and I wish he'd just grow up and take responsibility for his actions.

Husband and I had a big fight a few weeks ago. We 'recovered' from the fight and landed on marriage counseling. We went to 2 sessions last year but didn't continue because he didn't want what the therapist had to say about him. He had no problem when she said something about me..

He kept calling the va because its free but, they were never calling him back. This caused a lot of tension to build and eventually explode between us. Husband became distant and then told me he wanted a divorce. This broke me. I told him that I did not want a divorce but, I can't keep the man with me.

He went from not being in a rush to rushing the fuck out of me a week later. Only talking about divorce when he seems me, leaving the divorce paperwork open on my computer, and just being mean anytime I'm vulnerable with him. He told me that he was annoyed last time I tried opening up. He's just been so fucking mean this week.

He kept his end of the bargain and we finally had our marriage counseling session. She called us both out for our behaviour. Anytime she asked if we were in therapy to save the marriage or to get a divorce, I said that we are in two different places. After the session, he broke down and said he didn't realize he's been mean to me the last week. He then proceeded to blame all of the problems of our marriage onto me even though he did admit to faults during the session.

I said that I do not want a divorce but he does. We are just there to understand where things went wrong. However, he couldn't give a straight answer after repeatedly being asked. I'm tired of him dragging this shit out. He went from not being in a rush one week to getting frustrated that I am not ready to file and move out the next.. All within the span of 2 weeks. I kept asking him what is the rush?

He's not cheating on me. I think he doesn't want to get a divorce but thinks that he should. So, he's trying to push me away to make it easier. He's soooo uncomfortable with me. He also doesn't want to take the risk of repeated future problems. I don't want a partner who behaves like this or can't handle rough patches in a relationship. After the shock and grief has worn off, idk what I'm really fighting for. I know that his man doesn't want to be with him and he's just been treating me like shit to make me want to live him.

The whole thing is exhausting and I wish he'd just grow up and take responsibility for his actions.