u/Green-Bath-6943

Im 17F and im constantly being hounded about being a disappointment and immature for my age.

The things I am doing at 17 to consider me a disappointment:

working 3 jobs and not being home from 6am-530-630pm most days

going to school while working 3 jobs

Getting honor roll in honors classes

Paying for a 2026 car by myself

Going to the gym 4x a week

I pay for my own groceries just for others to eat them aswell as clothes, makeup, room stuff, etc

There is so many other things I do but to them im a disappointment.

I have been sick for the past week, along with having a extremely heavy period that I have to completely raw dog without Tylenol

So i did miss 2 days of school last week. When i woke up and told my mom that I couldnt go to school she looked at my sister and told her that she hopes she doesnt turn out like me and said i was a disappointment.

She also hates when i hangout with my bestfriend who is also my neighbor who has never done ANYTHING wrong.
She had a eating disorder and i literally got her into recovery without even knowing until she told me.

My mom now uses this against me and says shes a bad influence on me and literally wont let me hangout with her even though i usually hangout with her 24/7

I always take my friend on side quests with me, for example going to stop and shop at 9pm on a tuesday night.

Which was tonight. I got screamed at because I ate the ground beef that was supposed to be for my dogs. Everyone in my family knows all i eat is ground beef so i didnt think anything of it.

Anyways, i had to run to stop and shop for ground beef and i decided to ask my neighbor if she wanted to come with me

1. Because i needed help carrying things

My mom saw me drop off my friend and immediately screamed at me when i walked in and then made sure to talk about me to my dad super loud and just made me feel terrible about myself

She has also told my sister that she wont let her on birth control (which i was on to help my periods become less painful which did nothing but slowed my metabolism and i ended up gaining weight which i have lost and take care of myself now) because she didnt want her getting “fat” like me.

I am so sick of everything and I feel like my biggest bullies are my own family and it hurts me so much.

Sorry if this is a mess i just wanted to vent and get this off my chest and get some advice

EDIT: i also forgot to mention they are constantly threatening to take away the car that i pay for on a daily basis, threatening to report it as stolen since its under their names too

Im 17F. I have been in a super deep depression for a while now, but anytime i bring up how tired and overworked i am i get screamed at.

I have asked for therapy countless times for my anxiety. I also have ADHD which i was diagnosed with but my parents WILL NOT get me medicine or anything to help.

I am a high school student. Im juggling 3 jobs, doing chores for my parents like wasting my gas to pick my sister up and take her wherever she wants, whenever she wants and if i dont take my sister somewhere immediately, my parents threaten to take my car which I PAY FOR. $500 a month. I have worked my butt off to be able to pay for it.

I usually will only have sundays or mondays off from working.
When i do work, im not home from 7am to 630.

I go to school, i go to work, then i come home and have to do homework, chores, go to the gym, etc.

I really struggle with waking up early, i will admit that.
Sometimes i do wake up and just feel like i need a day to sleep in a little bit and stay home.
While i always end up regretting it because i get screamed at.

Anyways, this entire week ive been extremely sick. I lost my voice, i cant breath, usual cold. I left early on monday, didnt go on wednesday, and today i am not going.

I do now have around 18 absences but i have some doctors notes which dont really excuse me but they take them into account if you go over 18 absences.

When i told my mom i cant go today she screamed at me and told me that im a disappointment and told my little sister she hopes she never ends up like me.

This really really hurt me considering ive been doing so much for my parents and having to work everyday to be able to afford things because my parents wont give me ANY money. I buy my own groceries just for everyone to eat them, i have to buy my own necessities, etc.

This wouldnt be a problem except my sister probably gets around $100 weekly, maybe more. And my parents just favor her more.

At her age, I was not allowed any money and had to get a job to buy my own things.

My parents said she was too busy with soccer (i was too but i had to quit playing so i could work)

My dad also works from home and wakes up at 11am, goes on 2 calls, then goes out to bars with his friends to drink.

As i said, im 17. Everyone my age is going to parties, drinking, having fun.

I dont have friends but i did get invited to a party which was a big thing for me. I did get pretty drunk (it was my first time drinking) which i wont lie about, but my boyfriend was completely sober and brought me home safely and let my parents know i did have a little much to drink.

I got screamed at by my mom. Literally never allowed to go to a party now. On the other hand though, my sister is constantly going to parties (shes 14) and drinking every weekend and coming home drunk all the time and never gets yelled at.

Anyways, my mom really really hurt me by calling me a disappointment.

My parents never speak highly of me, its always my little sister who gets so much praise.

When i was playing highschool soccer, i just wanted my dad to come and watch one game, instead everytime i had a game he was too busy or had to watch my sister practice. Even when i was playing club soccer, he wouldnt come to any of my games because my team wasnt as highly ranked as my sisters.

Im constantly getting compared to my sister and how much better she is and it really hurts me and i dont really know what to do and wanted to get this all off of my chest.