u/Greedy_Pudding_2966

Here is some context:

We are both in our 40s. She was and is a pet care client of mine, and she asked me to move in as she is by far my most frequent client. She travels at least once a month.

We have gotten close since I've been here, but she has made snarky comments about my weight (I am in a normal BMI but she is a marathon runner and has several Pelotons, so her standards are perfection). She does not bite her tongue herself, ever, though she is also "good" to me as a client if that makes sense (has been generous here and there).

She is going on an international 2-week vacation, and she has been at peak stress for the last three days. Those three days she has had off to prepare to go. Sighing heavily and complaining about the whole process of packing and thinking of what needs done.

She knows I am a coalminer's daughter and grew up in absolute poverty wondering if my dad or any of his friends would return home after their shift. Used to happen all the time, coal mine explosions and fires.

I tolerate her stress well (which bleeds over as snippiness and passive agression at me often) when she has to travel for business, as I know those are legitimately high stakes with 6 or 7 figures on the line. But this, getting ready for a vacation, my mind has less tolerance for her spinning out about it. I know travelling is stressful, but I just see privilege.

So as she was huffing and puffing this morning, getting ready to show me how to take care of her garden, complaining about having to send an email or two out before she left, and letting herself be overwhelmed.

I made this comment, "I would make a joke about the coal mines, but I'll keep it to myself".

Things went silent for a bit, then we quickly moved on and were our usual selves. Our relationship is good despite us being two very different people.

I felt guilty afterwards, but I think she does respond a lot to my reality checks. She wasn't always a multi-millionaire. But what do you all think?

I never ever confront her or say negative things to her at all, as she is after all my main source of income.

Thanks in advance

QUICK AND POSITIVE UPDATE - I apologized and she said she didn't remember me saying anything, and she said "I don't get offended easily and don't think twice on my accord." And we hugged.

Some of y'all overthought this even more than me.

Today I was walking a "client" (I'm a pet care provider) in a park in Arvada, when an older woman and some guy had a medium-sized doodle off-leash. I could tell she got nervous as soon as she spotted us, but then acted like she was doing no wrong. Her dog kept trying to run after us and she had to catch him multiple times. Then, she then said, "Oh, I just saw you and your dog! Tee hee!" She had definitely seen us from yards away, and was trying to play it off like "I thought this park was empty" as if that matters, and how can it ever be as it is near tons of homes and is a tiny park.

I responded firmly, this is one of my clients, and safety comes first with my clients. It is so shameful anymore I'm tired of holding my tongue.

Since it is a pretty small park, we ran into her again, and I pointed to a huge sign that said "no off leash dogs per ordinance" and said "Did you see the sign?" And she started to yell and scream. She was a at a distance, so who knows what she said.

I called the cops' animal line not just because of her dog, but her egregious and unstable behavior. This woman was clearly stable financially anyway, so she thought that was enough reason for her to be able to do whatever she wants, even though her dog couldn't do the most basic commands like staying near her.

And then to act like it is our fault for being in her way or something. "I just saw your dog." Fuck off. Do not care how much this gets downvoted. I see this and worse behavior everyday.

I recently saw a young woman in the Highlands tie up her medium/large dog to a flimsy parking sign, and walk half a mile away (the street was sloped). I stood with her ABSOLUTELY FREAKING OUT, ANXIOUS TO THE POINT OF DROOLING dog until she returned 45 minutes later. She had no shame. Was smiling and waving at me the whole way back to her dog, as if she just expected a qualified stranger to come out and take care of her dog while she went shopping....because that's what she believes she deserves or something...I don't get this kind of thinking as I was raised in a community-minded way.

DOGS ARE NOT YOUR ACCESSORIES. THEY ARE LIVING BEINGS.

Rant over. I see this stuff every. single. day.

This has been an ongoing saga for the last 3 months. They send me confirmation that they've cancelled, then they charge me again days later.

Just sending out a warning.