I’m currently pregnant with my first child, a baby boy. Before I got pregnant, my partner and I agreed that if we had a boy, we would name him after him.. Boris (he’s a junior, so our son would be the third).
Now that it’s actually real, I regret agreeing to that. I’ve realized I want my son to have his own name, and honestly I’m not in love with the idea of using his name as the first name.
I’ve tried bringing this up multiple times to have a calm conversation and find a compromise, but it always turns into a big argument. He feels like I went back on my word and “played him,” and gets really upset whenever I try to revisit it.
I understand why he feels hurt, but this is also something that matters a lot to me, and I don’t want to choose a name I’m not happy with.
I’ve suggested possible compromises (like using his name as a middle name or finding something we both like), but we haven’t been able to agree on anything.
At this point, I don’t know how to move forward without it turning into another argument. Has anyone dealt with something similar? How do you handle a situation like this? AITAH for changing my mind about naming my son after his dad??