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I was excited to watch Apex after seeing it sit in the Top 10 for a while, and let me just say: this movie was genuinely excellent in the most horrifying way possible. The dread and panic the lead character felt came through the screen so well that I felt anxious the entire time watching it.

BUT.

I was SO disappointed when the predator turned out to be a man 😭 I was convinced she was about to be hunted by some terrifying crocodile, feral wilderness creature, or psychotic kangaroo or something uniquely Australian… and instead it was just a guy.

And honestly, that realization made the movie even more upsetting. Watching what this woman went through and realizing that for so many women, the real danger is men. Obviously not being hunted through the Australian wilderness, but being threatened, controlled, abused, stalked, or endangered in real life.

Not all men. But somehow, always a man.

Also… I COMPLETELY hated when she threw the compass into the water. As someone who was widowed at 24, I know everyone experiences grief differently, but GIRL 😭 that was your man’s favorite compass. That thing survived falling down a mountain, somehow stayed with you through a literal jungle chase, and you still managed to find it again after being hunted by a madman. At that point it was YOUR lucky compass. Throwing it into the water was absolutely wild to me.

I know it wouldn’t have mattered what I did or didn’t do. This was a character reveal and a choice he made, and it’s something I won’t give second chances for. The consequence of his actions is that his marriage is over. He quit his job on the spot when I found out btw.

Two people can be responsible here. This woman was a coworker, knew he was married, and didn’t care. She chose to engage with a married man and behaved unprofessionally at work.

At the end of the day, actions have consequences. My marriage is ending because of his choices, and I also feel like there should be accountability on her side for what happened in a workplace setting. I just don’t see why only one person gets consequences in this situation. My life has been ripped apart.

This is the email I have drafted to the company. Thoughts? How can I make it stronger?

To whom it may concern,

I am reaching out regarding a serious concern involving conduct that occurred at (business) during the employment of (soon to be ex) and his coworker (Homewrecker).

I have written communication, including text correspondence, supporting repeated instances of inappropriate personal conduct between the two on company property, including physical intimacy, as well as marijuana use on-site.

In addition, I have information indicating that (Homewrecker) used a marijuana pen on-site during working hours.

I am requesting clarification on your company’s policies regarding employee conduct, professional boundaries, and substance use on the premises, as well as how situations of this nature are addressed and enforced.

As a resident of (neighborhood) and a guest who has supported (business) since its opening, I hold your establishment to a high standard of professionalism and accountability.

I would appreciate confirmation that this message has been received and directed to the appropriate person or department. Please let me know who I may follow up with regarding this matter.

Thank you for your time and attention.

His reasoning was that he “wasn’t feeling valued,” and instead of communicating that to me like an adult, he chose to have sex with a girl from his new job twice in our bed.

We’ve been arguing a lot lately. I have some unresolved issues from my previous marriage where my husband was abusive and later died in an accident. Since getting married again, some of those things have been coming up, and I’ve been trying to work through them. I expected patience, understanding, and kindness from him as I process all of that.

He had been acting strange, so last night I went through his phone and found texts with another woman. When I confronted him, he initially tried to deny things, and only took accountability after I showed him the messages. He did apologize to me.

Since then, he put in his immediate notice at the job, promised to never see her again, and answered all my questions. He had been begging me to forgive him or take him back. He gave me his passwords, deleted his social media, sent her a message saying to never contact him again, and blocked her and deleted her number. He’s saying he’ll do whatever it takes.

But honestly, he doesn’t get points for any of that. I’m still trying to process everything and decide what I actually want to do moving forward.

The damage is already done, and I don’t think I’ll ever view him the same way again.

I’m leaning more towards just walking away. We never had a wedding, just a private ceremony with my parents and a couple close friends. I think I’m at the point where I need to cut my losses and end things now, because this kind of behavior this early on is a massive red flag.

I reached out to the woman for clarification. She knew he was married and still chose to engage. I haven’t heard back from her yet.

I’m debating going up to his job, or at least texting her and saying I would like to have a conversation via phone, or that I’m willing to come to her place of work if that’s better for her (Last thing I want to do is see this woman in person. I would never cause a scene… simply trying to motivate her into replying). I just want answers at this point.

I’m also considering whether I should email the job and let them know they have someone working there who knowingly got involved with a married man and is a liability. I know at the end of the day this is his fault, but she made a choice too, and I’m struggling with how to process all of it.

His reasoning was that he “wasn’t feeling valued,” and instead of communicating that to me like an adult, he chose to have sex with a girl from his new job twice in our bed.

We’ve been arguing a lot lately. I have some unresolved issues from my previous marriage where my husband was abusive and later died in an accident. Since getting married again, some of those things have been coming up, and I’ve been trying to work through them. I expected patience, understanding, and kindness from him as I process all of that.

He had been acting strange, so last night I went through his phone and found texts with another woman. When I confronted him, he initially tried to deny things, and only took accountability after I showed him the messages. He did apologize to me.

Since then, he put in his immediate notice at his (second) job, promised to never see her again, and answered all my questions. He had been begging me to forgive him or take him back. He gave me his passwords, deleted his social media, sent her a message saying to never contact him again, and blocked her and deleted her number. He’s saying he’ll do whatever it takes.

But honestly, he doesn’t get points for any of that. I’m still trying to process everything and decide what I actually want to do moving forward.

The damage is already done, and I don’t think I’ll ever view him the same way again.

I’m leaning more towards just walking away. We never had a wedding, just a private ceremony with my parents and a couple close friends. I think I’m at the point where I need to cut my losses and end things now, because this kind of behavior this early on is a massive red flag. He clearly doesn’t respect me, and I no longer respect him.

I reached out to the woman for clarification. She knew he was married and still chose to engage. I haven’t heard back from her yet.

I’m debating going up to his job, or at least texting her again and saying I would like to have a conversation via phone, or that I’m willing to come to her place of work if that’s better for her (Last thing I want to do is see this woman in person. I would never cause a scene… simply trying to motivate her into replying). I just want answers at this point.

I’m also considering whether I should email the job and let them know they have someone working there who knowingly got involved with a married man and is a liability. I know at the end of the day this is his fault, but she made a choice too, and I’m struggling with how to process all of it.

His reasoning was that he “wasn’t feeling valued,” and instead of communicating that to me like an adult, he chose to have sex with a girl from his new job twice in our bed.

After I found out, he put in his immediate notice at the job, promised to never see her again, and answered all my questions. He gets no points for that. The damage is already done, and I don’t think I’ll ever view him the same way again.

I’m leaning more towards just walking away. We never had a wedding, just a private ceremony with my parents and a couple close friends. I think I’m at the point where I need to cut my losses and end things now, because this kind of behavior this early on is a massive red flag.

I reached out to the woman for clarification. She knew he was married and still chose to engage. I haven’t heard back from her yet.

I’m debating going up to the job, or at least texting her again and saying I would like to have a conversation via phone, but that I’m willing to come to her place of work if that’s better for her. I’m also considering whether I should email the job and let them know they have someone working there who knowingly got involved with a married man and is a liability. I know at the end of the day this is his fault, but she made a choice too, and I’m struggling with how to process all of it.

His reasoning was that he “wasn’t feeling valued,” and instead of communicating that to me like an adult, he chose to have sex with a girl from his new job twice in our bed.

We’ve been arguing a lot lately. I have some unresolved issues from my previous marriage where my husband was abusive and later died in an accident. Since getting married again, some of those things have been coming up, and I’ve been trying to work through them. I expected patience, understanding, and kindness from him as I process all of that.

He had been acting strange, so last night I went through his phone and found texts with another woman. When I confronted him, he initially tried to deny things, and only took accountability after I showed him the messages. He did apologize to me.

Since then, he put in his immediate notice at the job, promised to never see her again, and answered all my questions. He had been begging me to forgive him or take him back. He gave me his passwords, deleted his social media, sent her a message saying to never contact him again, and blocked her and deleted her number. He’s saying he’ll do whatever it takes.

But honestly, he doesn’t get points for any of that. I’m still trying to process everything and decide what I actually want to do moving forward.

The damage is already done, and I don’t think I’ll ever view him the same way again.

I’m leaning more towards just walking away. We never had a wedding, just a private ceremony with my parents and a couple close friends. I think I’m at the point where I need to cut my losses and end things now, because this kind of behavior this early on is a massive red flag.

I reached out to the woman for clarification. She knew he was married and still chose to engage. I haven’t heard back from her yet.

I’m debating going up to his job, or at least texting her and saying I would like to have a conversation via phone, or that I’m willing to come to her place of work if that’s better for her (Last thing I want to do is see this disgusting whore in person. I would never cause a scene… simply trying to motivate her into replying). I just want answers at this point.

I’m also considering whether I should email the job and let them know they have someone working there who knowingly got involved with a married man and is a liability. I know at the end of the day this is his fault, but she made a choice too, and I’m struggling with how to process all of it.