Normal co parenting??
I 25F am in a relationship with 33M, I am 6 months pregnant with his 3rd child and my 1st. Prior to me getting pregnant we didn’t really have a label on our relationship. We weren’t sleeping with anyone else but were free to talk to or date others. He claims that him and his ex gf who he shares 2 kids with have not had any relations besides co parenting in the last 5-6 years. Last summer before we made things official between us, I found pictures in his phone of her sending nudes. Besides that, I have yet to find anything “super” concerning between the 2 of them. When he told her I was pregnant she flipped out, crying and angry. He apologized profusely to her. Claims “I wouldn’t understand bc I don’t have kids yet” anyways they text each other every single day as many times as he talks to me in a day he talks to her. Sometimes it’s about the kids but 80% of the time it’s talking about their day or what they are up to and things of that nature. For some reason it really just rubs me the wrong way to see them constantly talking to eachother. And it constantly not being about the kids. And idk if it’s from my own insecurities or what, this is the 1st time I’ve dated someone with kids. In my opinion I don’t see why they need to speak to eachother at all if it’s not about the kids. My parents were divorced and did not talk unless it was about me. Granted they hated eachother but to me it’s just weird to be so intertwined with your ex, kids or not. To add she didn’t want me around her kids at all before my bf and I got officially together, which I can understand. When things became official and I got pregnant she still didn’t want her kids around me until she met me, then at some point changed her mind and has now been okay with me being around them but refuses to meet me. Tells my bf she’s uncomfortable and it’s hard for her. I honestly feel like my baby and I have homewrecked a family and I hate it. He tells me nothing is going on but everything just seems so fishy to me. I feel like he’s just with me bc I’m pregnant and truly wants to go back to his family with her. They talk about getting property together to live close to eachother, sometimes she flirts with him very slightly. He never flirts back or anything. Idk it’s all just so weird and confusing to me. Is this a normal healthy coparenting relationship? I’ve never seen one so truly I don’t know. Like I said my parents hated eachother when they broke up and I’ve never been with anyone else that has had kids so I’m new to this.