u/GrabImaginary7308

My first Reddit post and I shared on AIO and they recommended I come here. This is the tip of the iceberg of issues I’ve had with them.

But this one left a wound- also this was years ago - just never got outside feedback aside from a couple of friends.

had a high risk pregnancy and then gave birth via c section. Baby was ok, but immediately needed NICU care. Our ( mine and husbands) parents came to visit us in the hospital. I was alone in my room with husband recovery from c section because my baby was in NICU so parents visited us there. MIL brought my husband a shirt that said “Dad est 20xx” and she the handed me a bag with scarf in it from the pharmacy/gift shop she worked at. She said she couldn’t find a mom one on Etsy. I was crushed. Husband didn’t say anything.

I’ve never truly gotten over this and how it made me feel towards her. Like I was just a vessel for her grandchild. AIO?

**EDIT- to clarify this isn’t about getting a gift or not or it coming from her store. I didn’t need or expect anything. It’s that she gave him something that said “Dad” to mark this occasion of our first child while gifting me ( also my first child!!!) a random item that had nothing to do with being a mom or having a baby.

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u/GrabImaginary7308 — 13 days ago
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I had a high risk pregnancy and then gave birth via c section. Baby was ok, but immediately needed NICU care. Our ( mine and husbands) parents came to visit us in the hospital. I was alone in my room with husband recovery from c section because my baby was in NICU so parents visited us there. MIL brought my husband a shirt that said “Dad est 20xx” and she the handed me a bag with scarf in it from the pharmacy/gift shop she worked at. She said she couldn’t find a mom one on Etsy. I was crushed. Husband didn’t say anything.

I’ve never truly gotten over this and how it made me feel towards her. Like I was just a vessel for her grandchild. AIO?

**EDIT- to clarify this isn’t about getting a gift or not or it coming from her store. I didn’t need or expect anything. It’s that she gave him something that said “Dad” to mark this occasion of our first child while gifting me ( also my first child!!!) a random item that had nothing to do with being a mom or having a baby.

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u/GrabImaginary7308 — 13 days ago